A question for a martial artist

Seeker567

So I'm a black belt in taekwondo and a friend of mine wants me to train his brother a little.Yet, he is the type of person who thinks violence is funny, thinks anger is good, mike myers is his hero, and has insane anger problems. I'm worried that if I teach him, he could hurt someone. His mom wants me to teach him how to channel his anger, but I don't know if that's possible. Any suggestions on whether to train him or not? Tips? thanks

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zidangus

Well if you feel its the right thing to do then train him, but try to find a way to incorporate into your teaching that violence is not funny, and that its not good to have anger first, before you start going into physical stuff. Let him know that the training is for self defence purposes only and that the mental disciplined side is just as vital as the physical side of your training.
I dont know him of course so I have no clue if he would take any notice of this. So again do it if you feel he would not use this training in a bad way after you have trained him.

Mr_Serenity

A son of my dads friend is a pretty advanced martial artist, he does MMA and other stuff like myself. A few years back he taught his younger brother. His younger brother was a bit disturbed to begin with, one of those people that need a lot of therapy early. He had anger problems, and was very kept to himself.

One day this younger brother exploded and got a knife and stabbed his older brother in the back, literally, he stabbed him around the kidney. Even with his brother being the advanced and more experienced martial artist he still got stabbed, because a knife isn't easy to defend especially when you don't expect it like say from your younger brother.

That younger brother ended up going to jail, a very high security prison, one of those where you're on lock down and isolation due to being a high threat. And the older brother survived. Now he trains with my Eskrima teacher who is a guru at knife work. It was due to that attack that he started training with knives, to learn how to better defend against them.

It is also due to attacks like this, that I do not train my younger brother. He is 2 and a half years younger than me, but I can tell he needs a lot of mental work before he has that type of power. And I'm not the right one to teach him. Because when my martial arts teachers taught me they were hard with me. They taught me old school, and didn't hold back. They didn't just teach me how to fight, they taught me plenty of other things. I learned more from them than I learned from High school.

When I'm learning I often say yes sir, and I'm very respectful. In order to teach someone martial arts they need to be humble and take things in with an empty cup. If they show no humility towards you, you might be making a monster. Sure I'm a tough guy who loves fighting, but I know all about the "wude", "bushido", and of course "Buddhism" those codes of ethics usually keep me from ever striking anyone outside of a controlled fight situation. I would only hurt someone in order to protect myself, or someone else, and I know how to take people out without severely hurting them.

It's very important that you get a feel for the personality of a student before you teach them well. If you can teach them humility and discipline along with that physical power then they most likely won't physically bully or hurt anyone unless its for defense. Humility in martial arts is what makes the balance of the yin and yang, without it you're only teaching war.

nanimo

Seeker, I have to say that I agree with the above posters.

As a student of Taekwondo myself in my teenage years, I saw numerous fellow students who in spite of their training still managed to make considerable mischief because they thought of it as entertainment and nothing more. My advice would be don't do it no matter how much you get pestered.