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One dominating thought (person!)

redcordialredcordial
edited July 2011 in Buddhism Basics
I have recently seperated from my partner and was just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to prevent my mind from CONSTANTLY thinking about him. I have been meditating for half an hour everyday (metta and breath) but notice when my mind is not occupied on other things it wanders to him. I am aware of this and try to let the thoughts go but nothing seems to be working. I always just think 'what is he doing, is he thinking of me too, do I really want to be apart' etc. Like a hamster wheel in my head. Anyone who has parted from a loved one have any general advice from a Buddhist perspective? Any techniques or different meditation I should try?

I would be truly grateful
RC

Comments

  • NomaDBuddhaNomaDBuddha Scalpel wielder :) Bucharest Veteran
    So, the prisoner returns to his prison. Letting go of those thoughts solves little to nothing. Instead, you should apply the madman's method of questioning your own thoughts ( I guess that when you think about what your partner is thinking about you, it comes in the form of ...let's say...a movie), meaning that you should ask your thoughts why are they there, what's their purpose, and so on. Eventually they will disappear.
  • NOTaGangstaNOTaGangsta
    It just takes time.
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