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Dealing with anger/ irritation...
how do you guys do it? I am having a hard time today with various things going on and it is causing me to be quite frustrated, stressed, agitated, etc. I really need to work on this and could use some suggestions. Thank you.
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You and me both.
I have been angry, irritable and upset this week.
I have let things get to me, and I have let my bitterness get the better of my tongue.
So do you know the only thing I can do to get myself back on track?
Nothing.
I sit, quietly, and let the peace of a silent moment with myself sink into my centre. I let the whole thing replay in my head... without a single syllable of commentary.
No "I should have said this"...
or
"I shouldn't have done that".....
Just look at it.
Accept it.
Experience it.
Notice it.
Then take a really deep breath....
(No, I mean a really, really deeeeeep breath)
.... Hold it.....
And let it go with a really loud swoosh.
As many times as you need to blow the crud out of your system.
Then shake your shoulders, and don't carry it around.
The only burdened one is you.
Love yourself enough to refuse to carry it around. It's not your duty to do so.
It's your duty to be good to yourself, so do it.
By the way...
It's the week of a full moon (tonight is the night of it...) so the phases are very influential... It's not unusual for people to feel crabby at this time....
Here's an example:
I'm on my way to work and someone is driving in front of me and they're holding me up.
I start getting irritated and can feel myself getting stressed out.
I then pause and ask myself why I'm getting annoyed with this person. Maybe they are going slower than me because they've been working nights and are on they're way home. Maybe they have only just passed their test and are nervous. Maybe they've recently had an accident and once again are nervous. Maybe if I hadn't overslept I wouldn't be in so much of a hurry!!
Invariably I come to the conclusion that it's my fault I'm getting stressed and not this other person and this helps dissipate the feeling.
It may not work in every situation but I've found being mindful and examining the source of the irritation invariably causes it to go away, or at the very least lets me understand it a bit better.
A likely story...:)
Thanks for the quick response, every little bit of advice helps.
Full moon eh, that makes sense why everyone was driving so crazy today, I'm staying off the roads for the rest of the night, hehe.
This sounds like a good plan, and I'll have to try to make it work when the situation arises. Thank you.
I don't normally subscribe to crazy-sounding theories like this one, but there is much scientific evidence which seems to give credence to this phenomenon...
the moon affects the water of this planet, and given that we are around 70% water, it does seem quite logical that we are affected by the phases.. particularly full and new....
This is why some are referred to as LUNAtics... this is why when the french are angry, they say 'j'ai la lune bleue" and when the Italians are more crazy than usual, they are accused of having a 'mezza-luna' (a half-moon) ...not all there....
(Thank you, Fede!)
Love, Brigid.
Think back to a time when you felt relaxed and happy- where were you? What did you see? What did you smell? For me, it's sitting by the beach in the sun, listening to the waves breaking on the shore. When you feel stressed, close your eyes (If you can!) and think of that time- the sights, sounds and smells. As you begin to visualise your happy moment, your stress levels will begin to drop. It works for me, and I used to be the most crabby, irrascible person imaginable!
Peace
Could it be because we are trying to go faster and further than we are built to go?
Could it be because, when we are in a car, we are surrounded by metal and insulated by rubber tyres from the world around us?
Could it be because the internal combustion engine produces exhaust gases which are poisonous to humans and the environment?
Whatever the reasons, driving does seems, so often, to be an occasion for unskillful mind and actions.
I'm luckily because I live in the country. The only thing that slows me down are cows, wombats, foxes, birds and fallen tree limbs. Apart from that, driving is such a pleasure because I have such beutifull views to look at!!!!!!!!AHHHHHH!!!!
As for stressing out, well unfortuatly I have to take meds for that:downhand: but apart from that I play loud, "angry" rock music, take deeeeeepppppp breathes and then I'm okay. I get stressed sometimes because I look after people with various levels of mental illness and it really takes it outa ya when one of them goes:rant:
The moon thing is true, I and others that Iworked with have found that when the full moon strikes, some of the patients do flip out big time!!!!
Just my 2 cents.......