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Support Needed
My husband & I are owner building our first home & hubby has lost his thumb in an accident on Wednesday. Now out of hospital he is having emotional & physical pain coming & going in waves. Just before his accident I was listening to Dharma talks & feel it has helped me remain calm & supportive for him. As strong as I can be emotionally for him, I am, on the inside somewhat scared.
Scared...
a) that I might pass out if I see it at the hospital for the dressing change on monday, and that it would upset him if I did. I have a weak stomach & he is frightened I am going to hate the final look, despite the fact I have reassured him many times that I won't, that I love every part of him.
b) of going back to work & not being there to support him. I had to TELL my boss I won't be back to work for about 5 days & he is not happy about it, getting texts that he wants me at work that I just have to ignore. I need my job, now more than ever but I refuse to not be there when my husband has his bad moments.
c) I don't know the right things to say to him when he does have these bad moments. He suffers from anxiety almost daily even before the accident. He has had a very hard couple of years & our house was the only thing motivating him. Now he can't even look at the building site.
Can anyone recommend anything to read or listen to or have any advice that maybe I can use to reassure him or calm him in anyway? To make this whole experience a little less traumatic?
Scared...
a) that I might pass out if I see it at the hospital for the dressing change on monday, and that it would upset him if I did. I have a weak stomach & he is frightened I am going to hate the final look, despite the fact I have reassured him many times that I won't, that I love every part of him.
b) of going back to work & not being there to support him. I had to TELL my boss I won't be back to work for about 5 days & he is not happy about it, getting texts that he wants me at work that I just have to ignore. I need my job, now more than ever but I refuse to not be there when my husband has his bad moments.
c) I don't know the right things to say to him when he does have these bad moments. He suffers from anxiety almost daily even before the accident. He has had a very hard couple of years & our house was the only thing motivating him. Now he can't even look at the building site.
Can anyone recommend anything to read or listen to or have any advice that maybe I can use to reassure him or calm him in anyway? To make this whole experience a little less traumatic?
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But does he like reading about buddhism?
Sorry this happened you are doing the best you can
tara brach
jack kornfield