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Polygamy versus homosexuality
Jeffrey
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sorry, didn't see why you made this topic before (since it was an offshoot from another post). i still really hate this argument though and i think i will try and stay out of it this time. i just don't see why people are always trying to throw apples and oranges together.
btw, Jeffrey, I saw that this is a spin-off from another thread, but the interesting thing about that thread is that commentors seem to take "polygamy" to mean "polygyny" (one guy having more than 1 wife) when in fact, the term "polygamy" is genderless. It means, "having many spouses". So it can refer to a woman having several husbands (polyandry).
So now that we've cleared that up, could you tell us what you'd like us to discuss and why?
Discuss...
And no, at least from my perspective there is no interest in this "topic" because it's not a topic. It's to wholly unrelated subjects strung together with "vs."
p.s I know I should get out of my cave more
What I've found, Jeffrey, is that sometimes, when there's a momentum going on one thread, it doesn't transfer over to another thread. It's hard to move people from one to another.
Nice try, though. I appreciate what you were trying to do, even if the OP,when isolated from its original context, doesn't seem to make much sense.
There's nothing wrong with either loving more nor homosexuality, and frankly if we are loving,compassionate beings it should not matter at all.
In the past I have been polyamorous, and one can love another without necessarily engaging in a sexual relationship...a meeting of souls so to speak, it's an emotional relationship.
I am not saying it's easy because it's not easy to spread one's attention in between people without feeling sometimes coming up, however if there is a constant stream of communication it can work.
Basically, my feeling that love, in any form, is good. I digress because I lost my train of thought, and likely this was all over the place anyway. I hope it makes sense.
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In regard to what she wanted to discuss, polyamory (polygamy being a subset) is a topic I have personal experience with and I feel there are a lot of misunderstandings of it. One, when people think of polygamy, they often think of strange religiously based misogynistic relationships like those of the Mormon faith or perhaps those of Muslim faith. In both of these, marriage is a form of ownership and the woman is basically property. These sorts of arrangements are inherently abusive and degrading and do not line up with the Dharma, imo. The other misunderstanding they have is that poly is a free pass to cheat and is swinging. This is also not in line with the Dharma as it is about passion-seeking and can also put one's physical health in danger.
However, the less sexually based forms of polyamorous relationships are about not holding on to your partner with jealousy or ownership and also the recognition that it is possible to deeply love more than one partner in a romantic sense. Under those circumstances, I think it is possible to follow the Buddha's instructions/advice on a Dharmic relationship. However, I also feel it is truly difficult to follow the Buddhadharma to it's full realization while in a romantic relationship of any kind. Not impossible, but your partner has to be of the same understanding as you for it to work, imo. Otherwise, you will not be meeting their relationship expectations, and that will cause problems of its own. A conflict of choosing between your relationship and your path.
Anyway, just thought I'd throw in my 3 cents on this one.
On topic I feel that as long as people show eachother respect and love any relationship is a good thing.