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A new level of stress
I've just achieved this. After the past month of being awesome and having happy awesome times it came to a halt just a few hours ago. I was on Facebook when my deployed sister informed me she would be back in two weeks. We've been using her car and didn't expect her for...about ten more months. My husband is in line for a new job that now he won't be able to take (at 2x the pay) and we are in no shape to buy a new car without taking additional student loans out. I also realized that I signed up for a super late class that now will leave me almost stranded at the school at the ungodly hour of 9:30 at night. Had I known that she was going to come back a week ago I NEVER would have made this last minute change to my schedule. Not only that, but no car=no going to my dharma courses. This simple piece of news just ruined all my plans for the next couple months to get us into a better situation. wahoo.
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We have to keep in mind, even during the good times, that the higher we climb the further we can fall. There is no "good" without "bad", no happy without unhappy. From one end that's a depressing thought, from the other it's a thought full of hope.
And yet we never get out of this up-down-up-down struggle unless that's exactly what we choose to do, to go to a place where there's neither happy nor unhappy, good nor bad/evil, pleasure nor pain.
Always work to be done in this ever-changing reality.
I'm wondering about the schedule and how angry and threatening the school's policy has become on the subject.
The pepper spray and the MP3 player are just stuff to keep you feeling secure and relaxed regardless of what comes your way. But best case scenario is that nobody bugs you while you are listening to your MP3 player waiting for the bus. I travel all around Los Angeles very late night, and no one has ever harassed me. Could be my MP3 player, could be my appearance, could be my vibe, who knows. But either way I feel taking the bus at 9:30pm isn't too bad.
You could always get a job too. I work a temp job while going to school. I've been saving money for both the dental work I want and my car. Expensive stuff, but I'm getting there.
I guess I sound like a baby to someone in a much tougher town!
Pepper spray is a very effective weapon that I would recommend to all women that travel at night without their own car. Just as a measure of extra security.
I wouldn't give up on that great job your hubby got offered. There's gotta be a way. The job, after all, would enable him to buy or lease a car. Can you borrow a car? Can your parents help? Can anyone in the family spare a car to loan you temporarily, until your hubby gets set up in the new job, and can make car payments? Could you rent a car for a couple of weeks, until he can apply for a car loan? Think, think.... wrack your mind for a solution. Good luck! (Can your sister help in any way??)
He might be able to ride there with his brother who also works there. It is a bit of trouble though because he only goes in 3 days a week because he lives so far away so he works at homr. I think that my sister is going to *maybe* let us just use it maybe for an extra week-ish just to figure something out. We're currently dirt, dirt poor and so a car payment is totally not something I could undertake. We'll think of something. You'd think with a family of fundies I'd be able to borrow a car but they're currently sharing 2 cars between the 5 adults.
Pray.
Yes! I am continuously praying. I keep having dreams that my lama is trying to tell me something but I have to leave.
Best of luck. Let us know how the interview went.