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specific challenges to compassion for our children
i read another post about the monk who was tortured, and then had a not very pretty insight. I am dealing with teens and a lot of grief right now. The middle one refuses to come home because i wouldn't let her stay with friends longer (we have moved in the last year and old neighborhood is 30 minutes away so she can stay down there one night a week). In any case she has basically run away but did text me for money. Then there the other 2.
I realized in reading the post about the monk that I have had a very hard time with compassion for the kids, I am scared to feel too much of that because then I will not keep up the effort to help them be independant. And in the mix is also the things that I need from them for all of us to survive basically. I think when they were younger I was better at having compassion for their injuries and their struggles while still clearly being able to set a limit, in this case between the launching into the world and the serious economic situation we are in I am so focused on what needs to be done regardless of how anyone feels.
Anyone else want to share about finding that middle road of compassion in this situation, I know compassion is compassion but there seems to be some specific challenges with children.
I realized in reading the post about the monk that I have had a very hard time with compassion for the kids, I am scared to feel too much of that because then I will not keep up the effort to help them be independant. And in the mix is also the things that I need from them for all of us to survive basically. I think when they were younger I was better at having compassion for their injuries and their struggles while still clearly being able to set a limit, in this case between the launching into the world and the serious economic situation we are in I am so focused on what needs to be done regardless of how anyone feels.
Anyone else want to share about finding that middle road of compassion in this situation, I know compassion is compassion but there seems to be some specific challenges with children.
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