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I don't do drama.

thejoieannathejoieanna
edited October 2011 in General Banter
Someone recently has become a negative influence in my life. I need her to get out but she won't stop harassing me. She claims I stole her clock (mind you she actually broke in to my apartment and stole things) and wants me to give it back to her or buy her a new one.
I know for a fact that the clock was returned to her. I wrote it down in to my journal that I was returning it to her. And yet she claims that it is not in her possession. She says if I do not give her the money or the clock that she will blame me for a crime that friend of mine committed. I don't want to blame my friend for the crime nor do I want to suffer. Her family is rich.

What do I do?

Comments

  • compassionate_warriorcompassionate_warrior Veteran
    This person sounds a bit off-kilter, a good candidate for therapy. As for how to handle the situation, given that she has stolen items from you, and you know for sure that it was she who did it, you may need to confront her, but not with anger, but with calm, in the spirit of reconciliation. You could say something along the lines of: "Let's not argue about this. In view of the fact that you took some of my things on X day, let's just call it even, and put it behind us. Still friends?" And hold out your hand to shake hands on it, as a peace gesture.

    Then, gradually over time, phase this person out of your life, or put the friendship on the back burner. This doesn't sound like a healthy friendship.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    You could just cease talking to her. See if she will actually accuse you of the crime. compassionate_warrior's option also sounds good, yet I mention mine because a priority is not to associate with this person.
  • compassionate_warriorcompassionate_warrior Veteran
    There's always the possibility that there's more to this story than meets the eye. Was the clock expensive, or did it have significant sentimental value? Is there actually a possibility that criminal charges will be filed against you? Is this scenario the result of a relationship gone awry? She's threatening to blame you for a crime a 3rd party committed (I just realized there's a 3rd party involved)? She can't blame you for someone else's crime without proof. Odd crowd you hang out with: this person breaks into your place and steals stuff, and another friend has committed a crime. I'm starting to back away from this thread, slowly. :hiding:
  • CinorjerCinorjer Veteran
    Let's step back a moment. Your friend committed a crime, whatever that was, and this woman is threatening to do what...accuse you of doing it? Accuse you to whom? Her family, your friends, or the police? Does she know you didn't do it? Does she know your friend did it? And why would you cover for your friend, who did the crime? And why would you care what this woman claims, if you are innocent?

    For not doing drama, you're very good at it.

    What would I do? Well, if I could afford the clock, I'd buy one, wrap it, and give it to her as a gift in front of other people, saying you are sure you already gave the clock to her and don't know why she doesn't remember that but since it means so much to her, Merry Christmas and you hope she enjoys this one and hangs on to it.

    Give others a bit of credit for seeing people as what they are. And maybe work on why you have friends who commit crimes that you know about but need to keep secret.
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