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Snoring partners!
Like most evenings, I'm on my laptop while my partner is sleeping. She has to get up at the crack of dawn and I don't need to get up until later. Unfortunately, she snores and tonight it is really bad. I worry sometimes that she has sleep apnoea but actually she's just very, very loud.
I have tried prodding, pinching her nose to make her open her mouth, gently nudging... and then more aggressive shoving and finally shouting. The thing is, the noise makes me nuts! I don't want to sleep on the couch, but that is what I'm going to have to do if she doesn't shut up.
What I find most hard to do is deal with the absolute fury it seems to evoke in me, even though I know its not on purpose and she can't help it. Only maybe she can - she's been out drinking with friends, and alcohol always makes her much worse.
Apparently, I too sometimes snore, but somehow that doesn't make me feel any better.
I have tried prodding, pinching her nose to make her open her mouth, gently nudging... and then more aggressive shoving and finally shouting. The thing is, the noise makes me nuts! I don't want to sleep on the couch, but that is what I'm going to have to do if she doesn't shut up.
What I find most hard to do is deal with the absolute fury it seems to evoke in me, even though I know its not on purpose and she can't help it. Only maybe she can - she's been out drinking with friends, and alcohol always makes her much worse.
Apparently, I too sometimes snore, but somehow that doesn't make me feel any better.
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Stuffing a sock down her throat?
Noise cancelling ear phones from brook brothers?
.. I think they lying because I feel that I would wake up if this is all (allegedly) happening.
@BonasaiDoug and @Ada_B, do your partners feel rested after sleep? Are they able to get through the day without becoming fatigued or losing concentration (narcolepsy)? No mood issues? If they're having symptoms, they should see a sleep clinic for sure. The problem is, you may hate the solution more than the problem. What sleep clinics advise these days is to use a C-PAP machine, which I liken to a medieval torture device. It's a motorized device with a mask at one end to put over the patient's nose and mouth, and it forces air down their throat all night, to keep the airway clear. Believe it or not, some people swear by this thing, and feel it's a life-saver. I have no idea how the significant other manages with this thing in the room all night.
haha! @Lady_Alison That's funny--you're a drama queen in your sleep!
Then I realized he was sleep walking. "There are snakes! ", he said.
For years he would brush or look for snakes or spiders on the bed. I just made sure the door was locked in the room so he wouldn't get out. Mostly, I would watch him do it with wild, evil amusement and then say gently, "I got all the spiders/snakes today, go to sleep." That seemed to help...man, I hope he never reads this.
Sleep is a bizarre thing, isn't it?
My partner does not snore, but my mate who use to stay with did. If he did I use to roll him over or lightly smack his face with a pillow which worked, but I guess everyone is different.
you become irritable, listless, resentful and finally, positively venomous...
if your partners are overweight, it's possible they have excess pink mucous membrane in their throats.
They may have to go through a sleep trial, and of course the following is not done lightly but it's possible they may be eligible for an operation called a UPPP.
To give it its full title, its a Uvulo~Palato~Pharyngo~Plasty.
Basically, they cut away all the excess mucous memberane at the back of the throat, but it means also losing the pink little dangly bit at the back (the uvula - so called because it looks like a grape [uva] hanging off a stalk).
the downside is, that if the patient does not make concerted efforts to maintain a eight loss - the membrane is apt to grow back, with weight gain....
My ex husband had this procedure, and it worked well, but due to a sedentary lifestyle - that and his obvious enthusiastic love of food and equally enthusiastic aversion to any form of exercise - meant that within 2 years, he was back to his 'old self' again...
My current husband (
I wear earplugs, occasionally when appropriate take a sleeping tablet, and on some drastic occasions, will sleep in the spare room.
When I reach the positively murderous levels - I'll let you all know.
You can all talk me off the ceiling with soothing sutta references......
But the problem last night was that she'd been drinking and then she's always awful. She can't take her drink - doesn't do it very often (thankfully) but when she does, the problem is she works in a male-dominated company and can't keep up with the guys.
Of course, that means my thoughts are not so much "Aw, she can't help it" as "Why the *%$£@! did she drink alcohol in the middle of the week so that I don't get any sleep! Grrrrr!".
Her doctor is pretty sure it's not sleep apneoa. She is not particularly overweight, doesn't smoke, normally doesn't drink much and doesn't get allergies. Maybe she does have deviated septum, but not so anyone has ever noticed. She gets up really early for work and doesn't seem to have any problems with energy levels. It's just me that's exhausted!
I changed my pillow this week and my snoring stopped (I have been snoring for months/years I even woke myself up on occasions). The pillow is a hard foam pillow and lifts my chin from my chest. My wife is sleeping the full night now.I mention this in case it helps. I agree with the points above, avoid alcohol, heavy dinners and being overweight.
then play them to her.
if she says the volume is too loud, tell her the volume isn't the factor - the main problem is - that she snores, and it keeps you awake!!!!
My wife used to put her hand on my back or ask me to roll over. That can be enough because it also disturbed my quality of sleep and improved her's a little more. I recommend it in a loving way, because it brings awareness to snoring and your partner will remember that her actions affect you from first hand experience i.e. recollecting those moments during the night then next day is a good way to bring awareness and reduce frustration.
I snore a lot, but I found that sleeping on my side rather than on my back helped reduce the amount of snoring.
You can also try the nasal strips that open up airways.
Alternatively, you can tire yourself out with exercise and perhaps you'll sleep through it - snoring isnt a huge issue if you sleep through it... maybe ear plugs?
Sometimes I would wake up and more often than not, someone was snoring their head off. I found the noise peaceful, comforting almost.
It drives Mrs Tosh up the wall though.
I wonder if snoring is hereditary, because my dad snored insufferably, according to my mom.