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Relationships

LostLightLostLight Veteran
edited May 2012 in General Banter
Since in each life a person has a different wife/husband if they marry, what is the purpose of yet another love in this life?
Say all the previous wives/husbands become enlightened along with "oneself", wouldn't this idea become something similar to polygamy?

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  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    Who says you are reborn as a human?
    Who says they are?
    who says you'll ever meet again?

    I'd classify this as an imponderable.
    bordering on the ludicrous.
  • ozenozen
    Since in each life a person has a different wife/husband if they marry, what is the purpose of yet another love in this life?
    Say all the previous wives/husbands become enlightened along with "oneself", wouldn't this idea become something similar to polygamy?
    Polygamy would be living with more than one spouse. You can't live with people who are dead.
  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    Well.... you can.... but it wouldn't be pretty.........
  • PrairieGhostPrairieGhost Veteran
    edited May 2012
    Lostlight:
    Say all the previous wives/husbands become enlightened along with "oneself", wouldn't this idea become something similar to polygamy?
    All of us are the same person. Looking into a lover's eyes is to be seen through your own eyes. It's a very beautiful world.

    Or

    All of us are not different people. Looking into a lover's eyes is to be seen through your own eyes that you do not own. It's a very beautiful world.
  • ozenozen
    What do you call it when someone marries themselves?
  • PrairieGhostPrairieGhost Veteran
    A cheap reception.
  • PrairieGhostPrairieGhost Veteran
    The divorce would be messy though.
  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    How would you split the pot?
  • PrairieGhostPrairieGhost Veteran
    A prenuptial agreement would be best.
  • AMHAMH
    What do you call it when someone marries themselves?
    Narcisism?

    Or the lack of independant existence

  • andyrobynandyrobyn Veteran
    edited May 2012
    :)

    Definately could do your head in trying to ponder on this question - it is good to have a smile at the humourous responses which have come to mind though. My contribution is that if my only option was to marry myself I would go on a long retreat instead !!
  • LostLightLostLight Veteran
    edited May 2012
    Hahah. Good to know. Then I guess I'm ok with falling in love with myself, even though I'm not a self.
  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    It depends, of course, as to what you mean by 'falling in love with myself'...
    Any form of self-adulation is ego, and should be dropped..... you should no more - or less - love yourself than you love others.
  • PrairieGhostPrairieGhost Veteran
    edited May 2012
    As we practice, we see that everything that makes us unique is not us, and that, almost paradoxically, our lack of substantial self-essence is what we all have in common. Therefore we begin to regard each other as the same, or rather not-different people. Obstructions to love are based on difference, hatred is thinking 'I would act differently to you, I would look different, speak differently, think differently, feel different things. I do not like what you are.'

    But since all the conditions described above are not-self, then in fact, given the same conditions, we would all be in each others shoes. For instance, we cannot hate someone for being a different race or nationality, because we could have been born into those conditions. It's something quite obvious, but for many people the mind insists 'no, I could never be like you', and so, believing conditions to be us, we seek out only people with what we perceive to be similar conditions to love and befriend.
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