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Sensibility, and intolerance
Hello friends, and happy 21th of December hehe!
I was thinking right now, about how usually one has to wear a social mask in order for defending one self of society. I used to wear such mask for a long time, but recently I got tired and decided that I would be as spontaneous as possible.
Last morning, I put a facebook status talking about how I wouldn't connect to facebook for two days, and that I wished everyone good luck and a wonderful future in case something was to happen today hehe. I even joked, that if something happens we would see each other on another dimension. I thought my message would be taken nicely, and such. But what I found instead, was people attacking me on facebook? it came to the point of some telling me they had lost respect for me. This evening, I tried to explain that I don't believe in a zombie apocalypse per se, but of a transformation of the spirit. Also, I said that I prefer to believe ancient knowledge of many tribes instead of blindy believing everything NASA says for example. What I received of reply from someone I thought was a friend was the he was going to delete me from the friendlist because he didn't tolerate my ideas.
I know this all might sound very shallow. But, usually these things affect me as I'm a very sensible person. What causes this over-sensitivity? is it the ego? how can I handle that words do not affect me?
And second, what do you think about intolerance? People usually talk about tolerance, yet just look at this tiny example. Just for thinking something will happen in a spiritual way, I get angry replies from people I thought there were my friends. What should a follower of Dharma strive for? Society attacks who is different. So should use continue using a mask. Or simply go out of that circle of people?
I was thinking right now, about how usually one has to wear a social mask in order for defending one self of society. I used to wear such mask for a long time, but recently I got tired and decided that I would be as spontaneous as possible.
Last morning, I put a facebook status talking about how I wouldn't connect to facebook for two days, and that I wished everyone good luck and a wonderful future in case something was to happen today hehe. I even joked, that if something happens we would see each other on another dimension. I thought my message would be taken nicely, and such. But what I found instead, was people attacking me on facebook? it came to the point of some telling me they had lost respect for me. This evening, I tried to explain that I don't believe in a zombie apocalypse per se, but of a transformation of the spirit. Also, I said that I prefer to believe ancient knowledge of many tribes instead of blindy believing everything NASA says for example. What I received of reply from someone I thought was a friend was the he was going to delete me from the friendlist because he didn't tolerate my ideas.
I know this all might sound very shallow. But, usually these things affect me as I'm a very sensible person. What causes this over-sensitivity? is it the ego? how can I handle that words do not affect me?
And second, what do you think about intolerance? People usually talk about tolerance, yet just look at this tiny example. Just for thinking something will happen in a spiritual way, I get angry replies from people I thought there were my friends. What should a follower of Dharma strive for? Society attacks who is different. So should use continue using a mask. Or simply go out of that circle of people?
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They cannot read your intention as they only see their intentions, desires, projections.
So one must realize that there is an uncertainty for all action we do.
For instance that post became the karmic condition for the aggressive behavior to appear.
In these circumstances we must not react with the same aggression but rather we must hold our ground with space and kindness. Let those who are offended leave as they only see their face. And be grateful for those who stay as their time isn't long.
There is a freedom in this world not from the world but freedom for the world.
This freedom even allowing the aggressive behavior of others. But that doesn't call for passive action. When one is large and one has a great heart then and only then should one take action.
Just like if a child was going to harm themselves. We must prevent and scold them. That is taking perspective, space and kindness into action.
Much love friend.
A friend of mine posted something similar on FB, just the typical "it's the end of the world as we know it" referring to the song by REM, and just a joke on his part. I said something along the lines of "well, perhaps it's time for the world as we know it to come to an end. It isn't all that fabulous lately." and I even specified that I did not mean in hellfire and brimstone end, but just a change in the way we all life. And man, did I get crap for that, lol.
Second, you yourself said, "I know this all might sound very shallow."
I have a former student who posts multiple times per day on Facebook. He's an odd, but very likable guy...now an adult. I read his posts, and sometimes I feel like I'd like to kick him in the ass and ask him to rethink what he has said. But then I would be lecturing him, so instead I respond to the content.
As far as tolerance, there's just so much any of us can tolerate. We all have our toleration limits. I'm a pretty tolerant guy. I sometimes put up with a lot of shit from some people. But there is also a place I draw the line.
But, let's paraphrase Harry Truman...if you can't stand the head, stay out of the kitchen...and this time that applies to if you can't stand the response, don't make the post.
I have unfriended people on FB over their views. Not because "oh you are Catholic/Republican/too short" or whatever. But specific things they have said that are just foolish and I decided I didn't want to have to keep reading the stuff they were saying. Things like calling names instead of debating issues. I don't care if you disagree with every word I say, but I'm not going to have you coming over to a discussion I started and ranting and raving that we're all mentally ill (had that happen, and it was a girl I'd been friends with since 2nd grade). I just don't have time, or desire to baby sit adults on FB.
I just think that is funny how thinking in a rather esoteric way is seen as something terrible by some.
Only 2 days?
is that all you can manage?
I occasionally don't connect for weeks at a time... sure, the first few hours is a challenge, but then, you discover the beauty of simply not saying anything at all.....
Silence, in and of itself, speaks louder than any words.
*Holds up flower*.
It precisely points out attachments and allows us the opportunity to consider their arising causes & effects. Adopting this form of response changes our perspective from "Why am I'm being attacked" to "look at what is pulling my chain".
It moves one from the defensive hurt position to one of Dharmic opportunity
@federica , You're right, I should manage more. As a young adult, I find myself usually bombarbed with facebook messages and notifications every single day. I don't exaggerate when I say that when I got sick last year and couldn't be online for 2 weeks some people thought I had died lol.