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Who's money is this?
I have just a quick story to share with everyone, not the most interesting but it has a good ending.
My wife came home from work last night, she works as a waitress at a chain restaurant TGIF. There are many people that she works with that are very dishonest, they have taken money from her on various occasions (she knows this because when cashing out at the end of the night she is short on cash alot of the times) and they take from other people as well. Anyway, last night a coworker came up to her and handed her a book (one that waitresses use to hold their tickets and money in). She thought the book was my wife's so she walked away after handing it to her. My wife looked inside and noticed $60. She also immediately knew it was not hers. For whatever reason this became a dilemma for her. She had been wronged by people at the workplace so many times she was unsure whether or not to report it. I guess she really wasn't unsure, she knew what she needed to do, but because she knew the person she wanted to make her sweat a little I guess. The other worker who's book it was had another book and didn't realize it was hers, when she cashed out she counted no missing money. Because this is my wife's friend the money is being returned of course, but in a weird way she felt like this was her chance to make up for the cash that had always been taken from her.
When I talked to her about it I told her that it was a karma issue, and maybe this was her chance to stop people from taking from her, by giving this money back. I know karma is like a seed and most karmic consequences don't bear fruit immediately, heck some take many rebirths to bloom. But, I told her it was the right thing and other people would notice her honesty. They already all have nicknamed her "mom" at the restaurant so with the nickname especially, she needed to put forth the positive light of honesty. Like I said the person who's book it was is a friend, they are actually getting together to bake some Thanksgiving items today with our kids and theirs. She will give her the book today, after letting her "sweat it out" even though the girl had no idea the cash was hers. So I guess the moral is even if you have been wronged by someone or more than one person it still is not right to take something that is not yours, even if someone else thought it was yours to begin with.
Sorry for the babbling just wanted to share this....
My wife came home from work last night, she works as a waitress at a chain restaurant TGIF. There are many people that she works with that are very dishonest, they have taken money from her on various occasions (she knows this because when cashing out at the end of the night she is short on cash alot of the times) and they take from other people as well. Anyway, last night a coworker came up to her and handed her a book (one that waitresses use to hold their tickets and money in). She thought the book was my wife's so she walked away after handing it to her. My wife looked inside and noticed $60. She also immediately knew it was not hers. For whatever reason this became a dilemma for her. She had been wronged by people at the workplace so many times she was unsure whether or not to report it. I guess she really wasn't unsure, she knew what she needed to do, but because she knew the person she wanted to make her sweat a little I guess. The other worker who's book it was had another book and didn't realize it was hers, when she cashed out she counted no missing money. Because this is my wife's friend the money is being returned of course, but in a weird way she felt like this was her chance to make up for the cash that had always been taken from her.
When I talked to her about it I told her that it was a karma issue, and maybe this was her chance to stop people from taking from her, by giving this money back. I know karma is like a seed and most karmic consequences don't bear fruit immediately, heck some take many rebirths to bloom. But, I told her it was the right thing and other people would notice her honesty. They already all have nicknamed her "mom" at the restaurant so with the nickname especially, she needed to put forth the positive light of honesty. Like I said the person who's book it was is a friend, they are actually getting together to bake some Thanksgiving items today with our kids and theirs. She will give her the book today, after letting her "sweat it out" even though the girl had no idea the cash was hers. So I guess the moral is even if you have been wronged by someone or more than one person it still is not right to take something that is not yours, even if someone else thought it was yours to begin with.
Sorry for the babbling just wanted to share this....
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I wish I could live in the "the only moment that counts, is now" mentality. There are a lot of things, in regards to this thinking, that I fail at miserably.
But, if your wife is dishonest, the chain of "people ripping people off" just continues, doesn't it? If she forgets about everything else she's noticed or how she's been wronged and just thinks, "This isn't mine and it belongs to someone else" regardless of the past - isn't this doing the right thing?
It maybe be a small victory for "doing right" - but it's still a victory
-bf
Not that you're a speed-bump for everyone else to run over... But, if you go through life believing everything is going to be fair and people are going to treat you fairly - you're in for a bumpy ride.
I remember we had a discussion on this forum. One of the members was this "herman" dude. He, I believe, is a devout Socialist. A whole bunch of us were talking about "homeless" people, the so-called "cast-off's" of our society. I think the discussion also turned to national health-care.
I was saying that I really had a hard time paying for a national health-care program knowing it was going to be supporting people who would work the system and rip it off as much as possible. I've seen how various social programs work in our country and how people love to rip off the system - get something for nothing.
Then someone, I believe it was Simon, mentioned to me something about the 80-20 rule. How 20% of people will try to get something for nothing - but you have to focus on the 80% who will use a service honestly and fairly.
What is more important? Making the 20% act fairly and with a conscience? Or the 80% that will benefit?
The discussion on this forum really did change my thought process. And I've come to the conclusion, from people I have known, that "those who go through life misleading people to get something for nothing - they will spend their entire life looking for "something" for that "nothing" that their life is."
I don't believe acting unfairly does anything but hurt yourself.
-bf
Happy Thanksgiving, dear friend. May you and your family find happiness and the causes of happiness.
And, as you may or may not know, I wish you (and everyone here) the same on this day and every day.
-bf
I was just sitting here reading some the posts on this thread and have realized how much my thinking has changed (in some cases) and how I try to view things differently since being on the Path and with the help of some very wonderful people on this thread.
I just thought it was a good time to thank all of you for your help and insight.
I wish all of you lived right here by me.
-bf
Have a wonderful one, BF....