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What a beautiful short film. It's going to be with me forever and I'm going to draw on my memory of it when I lose patience with my folks. I'm going to need to develop some serious skill sets pretty soon with patience, compassion and understanding being at the top of the list.
And one should always remember the teaching that all beings have been our loving parents at some time. Take the way this beautiful little film affected you and apply it to all beings, and I'm sure we will all be better off for it.
Well, just because they were doesn't mean we have to be. I've seen a lot of people who had horrible relationships with their fathers when they were young turn it around when they got older and their fathers got wiser. Doesn't always happen, but it can. Sometimes all you've got to do is give them a chance. Assuming that's even possible, of course.
Well, just because they were doesn't mean we have to be. I've seen a lot of people who had horrible relationships with their fathers when they were young turn it around when they got older and their fathers got wiser. Doesn't always happen, but it can. Sometimes all you've got to do is give them a chance. Assuming that's even possible, of course.
Palzang
Pally, you are spot on. This has happened to me (my brother/sister) and my father. Though we kids were alienated from him for a while, with time came healing, and rather than blame him for all the misdeeds from the past, I (we) live in the here and now and concentrate on caring for my sick mother.
Well, just because they were doesn't mean we have to be. I've seen a lot of people who had horrible relationships with their fathers when they were young turn it around when they got older and their fathers got wiser. Doesn't always happen, but it can. Sometimes all you've got to do is give them a chance. Assuming that's even possible, of course.
Palzang
Yeah, this was the case with me, too. He was ferociously violent, sadistic, and extremely difficult to deal with. Unfortunately my brother can't forgive him and still lives in the past where he goes over and over all the things my father did to him. He's really trapped.
When I came back home to help my mum take care of my ailing father I had an inkling that it would be good for me but I had no idea how good. I've virtually relived my childhood while being the one in charge this time. As my father weakened with age and illness I grew stronger with age and the dynamic shifted in a very big way. I don't have any sore feelings regarding my father at all anymore. None. I was never good at holding a grudge anyway but whatever has been going with our interaction for the last 7 years has given me the chance to work through everything with him. To my great surprise, it's my mother, with whom I was much closer, that has turned into the greatest challenge of my life. Lots and lots of work to do there. I can't express how grateful I am to have the opportunity to do so while she's still alive. How lucky am I??
Yeah, Boo and Esau, you've discovered that you can never really give up on a person no matter how rotten they may have treated you. After all, they're just sentient beings like you and thus capable of making both giant screwups and amazing turnarounds.
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Thanks, Palzang. So much.
Palzang
Palzang
Pally, you are spot on. This has happened to me (my brother/sister) and my father. Though we kids were alienated from him for a while, with time came healing, and rather than blame him for all the misdeeds from the past, I (we) live in the here and now and concentrate on caring for my sick mother.
Cheers.
When I came back home to help my mum take care of my ailing father I had an inkling that it would be good for me but I had no idea how good. I've virtually relived my childhood while being the one in charge this time. As my father weakened with age and illness I grew stronger with age and the dynamic shifted in a very big way. I don't have any sore feelings regarding my father at all anymore. None. I was never good at holding a grudge anyway but whatever has been going with our interaction for the last 7 years has given me the chance to work through everything with him. To my great surprise, it's my mother, with whom I was much closer, that has turned into the greatest challenge of my life. Lots and lots of work to do there. I can't express how grateful I am to have the opportunity to do so while she's still alive. How lucky am I??
Palzang
How he threw me down and robbed me."
Live with such thoughts and you live in hate.
"Look how he abused me and hurt me,
How he threw me down and robbed me."
Abandon such thoughts, and live in love.
I can't say it better than that!