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what is your take on fate readings?
Hi, I am not a Buddhist but I have had a lot of friends who are. I am also dating a Buddhist and I am struggling with the concept of fate readings. She is Chinese and I am American. She has gotten three fate readings about our future from Buddhists fate readers. Two said we have no destiny together and one said we have destiny together.
Now she wants to end our relationship because of the fate readings saying we cannot be together. Personally, I don't believe that anyone else can control your fate, or tell you what your fate is to be. How do I explain to here that a fate reading is only one possible outcome and people have the ability to chose their own path? She is very traditional so I guess this is very important to her. Can anyone give me some advise? Thanks.
Now she wants to end our relationship because of the fate readings saying we cannot be together. Personally, I don't believe that anyone else can control your fate, or tell you what your fate is to be. How do I explain to here that a fate reading is only one possible outcome and people have the ability to chose their own path? She is very traditional so I guess this is very important to her. Can anyone give me some advise? Thanks.
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Well that is ridiculous. I thought one said otherwise, anyway? If the reading that you have no destiny together is true then I would ask her why she doesn't allow time to reveal that rather than go down the self-fulfilled prophecy route? Our futures are not predetermined... we always have choices. She alone is ensuring that that will be her future.
I have never heard of this in Buddhism honestly, and it sounds like more of a cultural thing? Overcoming ingrained superstitious beliefs is very difficult. Maybe someone more familiar with the culture will be able to offer better advice.
Good luck~
Well, there are a million ways to explain that to her, but you can't change her mind for her. You might want to consider whether the strength of your differences is greater than the strength of your relationship. Beliefs can be a pretty big deal.
She subsequently broke up with him, and said that it was the biggest mistake of her life.
But she said that the palm reader had planted such a seed of uncertainty in her mind, that it became bigger than the relationship.
She's not breaking up with you, because she doesn't think you have a future together.
She's breaking up with you because she's been told there isn't.
And the fear they might be right, is proving the case.....
Unfortunately, there is little you can do when superstition and such similar issues play such a huge part in somebody's culture, conditioning and upbringing.
Please let me tell you though:
This is not typical of any Buddhism I have encountered. I'm sure there are similar practices in Tibetan Buddhism, but I don't think they are as 'magically' rooted....
However, not all disciplines and schools of Buddhism ascribe to anything remotely like this.
As she is oriental and living in Indonesia, such things are a mix of different practices, and have a vice-like grip.
I regret to opine that it seems to be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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One of the main concepts of Buddhism is that absolutely everything is impermanent. This includes relationships, one way or another, at one point or another.
It also includes anger and sadness.