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Enlightenment for women.

chrispchechrispche Southend on Sea, Essex, UK Explorer
edited February 2010 in Buddhism Basics
I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

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  • ValtielValtiel Veteran
    edited December 2009
    Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

    Unenlightened men.
  • cazcaz Veteran United Kingdom Veteran
    edited December 2009
    chrispche wrote: »
    I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

    Bigoted people the culture buddhism evolved in would as any other been male dominated its always best take ignore the cultral bullshit if someone is as short sighted as to beleive flesh is an obstruction to training the mind then they have clearly learnt very little. :(
  • edited December 2009
  • DeshyDeshy Veteran
    edited December 2009
    Unenlightened men.

    Lol.. surely :lol:
  • DeshyDeshy Veteran
    edited December 2009
    However I must say that the support some societies have for female monks is very much less which is a shame
  • edited December 2009
    chrispche wrote: »
    I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

    That is a mistaken notion caused by confusing the Nikayan concept of sammasambodhi with Awakening {Vishuddha or Spiritual Purification and Nibbanna or unbinding from samsara}. Sammasambuddhas are rare. They become Stream Winners without a teacher and start with the desire to save all sentient beings. They must then spend many lifetimes acquiring merit as a Bodhisatta. Next, they are born during a time when a Sammasambuddha is the world, make a special vow, and receive a prediction. After that, they are reborn in the Tushita Heaven; where they wait. They can only appear in the world after all traces of the Dharma taught by the previous Buddha have vanished.

    There can only be a Dharma of one Sammasambuddha at a time. Shakyamuni is said to be the 28th Sammasambuddha. The 29th will be Maitreya, in the far distant future. According to the Suttas, all Sammasambuddhas, Brahmas, and Wheel Rolling Kings are always male. Also, Shravakas {monks, nuns, laymen, laywomen}, Pratyekas, and evil people can never be Sammasambuddhas. Only a Bodhisatta can become a Sammasambuddha.

    In the original teaching, Arhat meant the same as Awakened or Enlightened. A Sammasambuddha is also an Arhat. There are two other kinds of Arhats. There are Pratyekabuddhas and Anubuddhas. They all attain the same awakening. Those who become stream winners by following the Buddha's teaching are called Shravakas. When they become arhats; they are called Anubuddhas. In the Suttas, there are examples of female Shravaka Arhats. Dhammadinna the Nun is a famous example. There are also many examples of monks, laymen, and laywomen who attained Enlightenment. Even a serial killer met the Buddha, repented, and became an Arhat.

    Unlike Bodhisattas, Shravakas can become Arhats in one lifetime. If we want to be a Sammasambuddha, we would have to wait in line for gazillions of eons. Or, we can be satisfied with just attaining mere Enlightenment as disciples of the Buddha. :D
  • edited December 2009
    chrispche wrote: »
    I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

    All beings have a chance of enlightenment regardless of race and sex.

    Women in general have it tougher than men because they generally find it harder to put away their emotions compared to men. Buddhism is about being rational and acting on what is right. Emotion more often than not mars that process. However that said, there are many enlightened women in history.
  • JasonJason God Emperor Arrakis Moderator
    edited December 2009
    chrispche wrote: »
    I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

    Robby's right in that women are capable of becoming enlightened. This is not in dispute, and I've never heard any tradition state otherwise. As Robby correctly points out, however, what is in dispute is whether women can become samma-sambuddhas.

    Personally, I disagree with the idea that women are incapable of becoming Buddhas. For one thing, I've yet to hear a compelling explanation as to why this is the case. Besides that, I'm open to all the available evidence, and I agree with Prof. Gombrich that such passages are suspect and probably date after the Buddha's lifetime.
  • edited December 2009
    physicist wrote: »
    All beings have a chance of enlightenment regardless of race and sex.
    even a shield bug?

    gorse-shield-bug-0738.jpg
  • jinzangjinzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    The idea is that Buddhas incarnate in whatever form engenders the most respect, so that their teaching is most likely to be listened to. Thus, Shakyamuni was born as a man in the warrior caste, with a handsome form and melodious voice. If he had been born as an outcaste woman disfigured by leprosy, no one would have listened to her and there would be no Buddhism. If there ever comes a time when women have equal or greater respect than men, you can be sure that future buddhas will be born as women. That time is not yet here.
  • AriettaDolenteAriettaDolente Veteran
    edited December 2009
    physicist wrote: »
    Women in general have it tougher than men because they generally find it harder to put away their emotions compared to men. Buddhism is about being rational and acting on what is right. Emotion more often than not mars that process.
    I completely disagree. While women surely tend to be more emotional than men, they are free from the burning sex drive and violent urges caused by male hormones. Both sexes have certain challenges apart from the other, but on the whole, they are more alike than they are different.

    I believe the only disadvantage women have in seeking enlightenment is cultural. Women are not expected or encouraged to pursue spiritual and philosophical ideals, and those who do are often rejected by their peers. For a man, it is a noble pursuit. For a woman, it is a foolish waste of time. There is a double standard at play. But for these societal and cultural influences, there would be little difference in regards to enlightenment between men and women.

    ~ AD
  • AriettaDolenteAriettaDolente Veteran
    edited December 2009
    jinzang wrote: »
    The idea is that Buddhas incarnate in whatever form engenders the most respect, so that their teaching is most likely to be listened to. Thus, Shakyamuni was born as a man in the warrior caste, with a handsome form and melodious voice. If he had been born as an outcaste woman disfigured by leprosy, no one would have listened to her and there would be no Buddhism. If there ever comes a time when women have equal or greater respect than men, you can be sure that future buddhas will be born as women. That time is not yet here.
    One of the most revered Buddhist icons in China is Kwan Yin, second only to Buddha, himself.
  • edited December 2009
    I believe the only disadvantage women have in seeking enlightenment is cultural. Women are not expected or encouraged to pursue spiritual and philosophical ideals, and those who do are often rejected by their peers. For a man, it is a noble pursuit. For a woman, it is a foolish waste of time. There is a double standard at play. But for these societal and cultural influences, there would be little difference in regards to enlightenment between men and women.

    I believe this to be the TRUTH... and it has been like this for many thousands of years... it will remain like this until women take the lead for change. I think that monks did not just preserve the Buddha's teachings over the last 2500 years, but also adulterated in ways to make it prejudicial to women. The same can be said for virtually all the other major religions. This is just my opinion.
  • DeshyDeshy Veteran
    edited December 2009
    Both sexes have certain challenges apart from the other, but on the whole, they are more alike than they are different.

    Superb statement; I couldn't have said it any better. Whoever says women are from venus and men are from marns do not make much sense to me at all. If you look at it closely all human beings are more or less the same in reality.
    I believe the only disadvantage women have in seeking enlightenment is cultural. Women are not expected or encouraged to pursue spiritual and philosophical ideals, and those who do are often rejected by their peers. For a man, it is a noble pursuit. For a woman, it is a foolish waste of time. There is a double standard at play. But for these societal and cultural influences, there would be little difference in regards to enlightenment between men and women.

    ~ AD

    Makes so much sense. It is all cultural than a biological limitation. It is a shame how little support women monks have in the Easten societies specially. In my country female monasteries do not get enough arms food either. Society certainly has a visible double standard when accepting, supporting and encouraging women who pursue spiritual paths or any other path for that matter which is differnt to the accepted norm: Grow up, marry, raise the offsprings.
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    As my teacher put it, we pay monks the highest respect because it was the monks who preserved and passed on the Buddha's teachings, which were, as you may recall, originally memorized rather than written down. It has nothing to do with any innate superiority of the male. In fact, Tibetans consider women to be stronger practitioners than males and thus more likely to achieve enlightenment in one life than men. I would have to agree with that assessment based on my own experience.

    Of course, Tibet, like every other Asian country that I am aware of, is male-centric, and women traditionally take a subservient role. I think that is unfortunate, but there is no reason why we have to emulate that here. I mean, that's one reason why I chose a female teacher!

    Palzang
  • edited December 2009
    Someone suggested that the role of periodic Sammasambuddhas is to renew the Trace Dharma is like Male Pregnancy. Think about that.
  • edited December 2009
    BTW, my understanding is that Gotama / Shakyamuni is the 28th Trace Samma-sam- buddha. The 27th was Kassapa. Maitreya will be the 29th and cannot appear until all traces of Shakyamuni's have vanished; 5.67 billion years after Shakyamuni's death.
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    Trace? What means this trace?
  • edited December 2009
    Palzang wrote: »
    Trace? What means this trace?

    Trace Buddha 迹仏
    Origin Buddha 本仏

    Trace Gate 迹門
    Source Gate 本門



    The concept is from Tiantai, I think, I also think it is derived from the Lotus Sutra. I am pretty sure there are is no direct back translation to Sanskrit of either term.
  • Floating_AbuFloating_Abu Veteran
    edited December 2009
    chrispche wrote: »
    I was at my Buddhist group last night and there was a discussion about how women can't get enlightened in the view of some traditions (not the view of the group let me stress). What bull shite is this, who can believe such things. Surely all sentient beings have the potential for enlightenment. Who spreads this kind of nonsense?

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    Inspiration from Enlightened Nuns
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    robby wrote: »
    Trace Buddha 迹仏
    Origin Buddha 本仏

    Trace Gate 迹門
    Source Gate 本門

    The concept is from Tiantai, I think, I also think it is derived from the Lotus Sutra. I am pretty sure there are is no direct back translation to Sanskrit of either term.

    Well, that was what I was asking, what the concept is. You still haven't explained that. Throwing up a few Chinese/Japanese characters doesn't explain anything.

    Palzang
  • edited December 2009
    Palzang wrote: »
    Well, that was what I was asking, what the concept is. You still haven't explained that. Throwing up a few Chinese/Japanese characters doesn't explain anything.

    Palzang

    There are different takes.

    In the first half of the Lotus Sutra, Shakyamuni is depicted as a Buddha who Awoke for the first time in this world. In the second half, he appears as a Buddha who first awoke in the remote past. The is related to the East Asian concepts of Acquired Awakening 始覺 and Innate Awakening 本覚.

    Acquired Awakening is what we achieve in this life time through the three vehicle teaching. The Awakening of the Sammasambuddha is said to be acquired over many lifetimes. Since they rise and fall, they are sometimes called Trace Buddhas.

    Innate Awakening refers to Buddha Nature; which has 4 primary attributes. This is called the One Vehicle or Source Gate; because it is shared by all three vehicles. In other words, it is Nirvana or Vishuddha itself.

    The concept of Trace / Source or Acquired / Innate resolves the early Mahayana problem that women, evil men, the Cause Awakened, and Dharma Hearers can never be Buddhas. Via conflation, this was taken to mean they can not Awaken at all. Also, it was taken to mean that Bodhisattva is the only vehicle that leads to full awakening.

    We may not all ride the same boat {trace}; but we all get to the same other shore {source}.

    The teaching spawned what I consider to be all kinds of unintended consequences. Some took the Source Buddha of the Lotus Sutra to be a different being than Shakyamuni. My take is that there are two ways to look at his Awakening. Another problem is that some took Innate awakening to mean that we are already Buddhas as we are; with nothing to attain.
  • edited December 2009
    Being a Buddha has nothing to do with physical attributes, emotional attributes, intellectual attributes, or cultural norms. Every one of these is an illusion. Throw them off.

    Waking up is a personal, and intimate journey, beyond all these, deeper than all of these, and REQUIRES absolutely no thing from any body, in order to allow it, or accept it.

    When we are ready, and when the time is ripe, we reach out and take our inheritance.

    Peace,
    S9
  • edited December 2009
    Being a Buddha has nothing to do with physical attributes, emotional attributes, intellectual attributes, or cultural norms. Every one of these is an illusion. Throw them off.

    Waking up is a personal, and intimate journey, beyond all these, deeper than all of these, and REQUIRES absolutely no thing from any body, in order to allow it, or accept it.

    When we are ready, and when the time is ripe, we reach out and take our inheritance.

    Peace,
    S9

    Awakening is free to those willing to pay the price.
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    Thank you, but I don't see much usefulness in that concept.

    Palzang
  • AriettaDolenteAriettaDolente Veteran
    edited December 2009
    robby wrote: »
    Awakening is free to those willing to pay the price.
    If you have to pay a price, it's not really free. Izzit? ;)

    ~ AD

    "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose..." ~ Janis Joplin
  • edited December 2009
    Robby,

    R: Awakening is free to those willing to pay the price.

    S9: AD answered this best. But let me try for second best. ; ^ )

    If we still think that we are paying some price, or giving up anything at/all in order to get this Awakening, than we are still holding on to the things of the mind, and valuing them too highly. In other words, we are still asleep, and buying into the dream.

    Warm Regards,
    S9
  • edited December 2009
    Palzang wrote: »
    Thank you, but I don't see much usefulness in that concept.

    Palzang

    I can not tell who you replied to. If me; then you are welcome. Personally, I find it to be a useful concept. My background is in East Asian Buddhism. The Trace / Source concept resolves a lot of dilemmas that pop up there. For example, it is said that the next Sammasambuddha can not appear until all traces of the previous have vanished. That is, IMO, accepted in the Lotus Sutra. Meanwhile, the Dharma Itself -- the source or origin, never arises and never falls.

    namaste

    robby
  • edited December 2009
    If you have to pay a price, it's not really free. Izzit? ;)

    ~ AD

    "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose..." ~ Janis Joplin

    Exactly. Who owns the toll booth on the road to redemption?
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    robby wrote: »
    I can not tell who you replied to. If me; then you are welcome. Personally, I find it to be a useful concept. My background is in East Asian Buddhism. The Trace / Source concept resolves a lot of dilemmas that pop up there. For example, it is said that the next Sammasambuddha can not appear until all traces of the previous have vanished. That is, IMO, accepted in the Lotus Sutra. Meanwhile, the Dharma Itself -- the source or origin, never arises and never falls.

    namaste

    robby

    I guess I follow what you're saying. Personally I don't go around worrying about when the next Buddha will appear! Just happy to have been born when this one's teachings are still in the world!

    Palzang
  • edited December 2009
    Palzang wrote: »
    I guess I follow what you're saying. Personally I don't go around worrying about when the next Buddha will appear! Just happy to have been born when this one's teachings are still in the world!

    Palzang

    In Japan, the theory formed in some circles that Shakyamuni Buddha's teachings had already vanished! That is a side issue,

    There was also a common belief a woman had to change into a man to attain Enlightenment. In the Trace Teaching of the Lotus Sutra, the Dragon Girl has to go to another universe and change into a man to become a Buddha. There was also an early Mahayana Sutra in which several of the Buddha's Arhats express dismay that thay had become stream winners as Shravaka {Dharma Hearers} under Shakyamuni, because this prevented them from becoming Buddhas. This also relates to to the confusion over Enlightenment for Women.

    There were a number of other paradoxes and dilemmas that arose in East Asian. Is awakening sudden or gradual? Is the One Vehicle an exclusive practice; or does it inclusive? If people have Buddha Nature and Innate Awakening why practice?

    In my view the concept of Trace / Source helps resolve those issues. A related concept would be Two Truths: the Relative, or Conventional Truth of Duality and Temporary Existence; and the Absolute or Ultimate Truth of Non-duality and Emptiness.
  • edited December 2009
    Here is how the Lotus Sutra dramatizes the issue:
    At that time Shariputra said to the dragon girl, "You suppose that in this short time you have been able to attain the unsurpassed way. But this is difficult to believe. Why? Because a woman's body is soiled and defiled, not a vessel for the Law. How could you attain the unsurpassed bodhi? The road to Buddhahood is long and far-reaching. Only after one has spent immeasurable kalpas pursuing austerities, accumulating deeds, practicing all kinds of paramitas, can one finally achieve success. Moreover, a woman is subject to the five obstacles. First, she cannot become a Brahma heavenly king. Second, she cannot become the king Shakra. Third, she cannot become a devil king. Fourth, she cannot become a wheel-turning sage king. Fifth, she cannot become a Buddha. How then could a woman like you be able to attain Buddhahood so quickly?"


    At that time the dragon girl had a precious jewel worth as much as the thousand-million-fold world which she presented to the Buddha. The Buddha immediately excepted it. The dragon girl said to Bodhisattva Wisdom Accumulated to the venerable one, Shariputra, "I presented the precious jewel and the World-Honored One accepted it - was that not quickly done?"


    They replied, "Very quickly!"


    The girls said, "employ your supernatural powers and watch me attain Buddhahood. It shall be even quicker than that!"


    At that time the members of the assembly all saw the dragon girl in the space of an instant change into a man and carry out all the practices of a bodhisattva, immediately proceeding to the Spotless World of the south, taking a seat on a jeweled lotus, and attaining impartial and correct enlightenment. With the thirty-two features and the eighty characteristics, he expounded the wonderful Law for all living beings everywhere in the ten directions.


    At that time in the saha world to a the bodhisattvas, voice-hearers, gods, dragons and others of the eight kinds of guardians, human and non-human beings all from a distance saw the dragon girl become a Buddha and preach the law to all the human and heavenly beings in the assembly at that time. Their hearts were filled with great joy and all from a distance paid reverent obeisance. Immeasurable living beings, hearing the Law, understood it and were able to reach the level of no regression. Immeasurable living beings received prophecies that they would gain the away. The Spotless World quaked and trembled in six different ways. Three thousand living beings of the saha world remained on the level of no regression. Three thousand living beings conceived a desire for bodhi and received prophecies of enlightenment. Bodhisattva Wisdom Accumulated, Shariputra and all the other members of the assembly silently believed an accepted these things.
    <qtlend></qtlend>


    The Dragon Girl is a fictional Character. In this dramatization, she already possesses the sacred mani jewel. That represents Awakening to Buddha Nature; Enlightenment Itself; expressed as Unbinding {Nirvana} or Purification {Vishuddhi}. However, the male audience, represented by a fictional Shariputra, is skeptical. So she goes to another universe, changes into a man, and becomes a Trace Sammasambuddha.



    Shariputra, in this dramatization, is not the historical person. He represents those who had conflated the trace appearences of Sammasambuddhas with Enlightenment. They had to come to view the Enlightenment of the Shravaka disciples as inferior and incomplete. Arhatship came to be viewed as a partial awakening. They thought that only Sammasambuddhas were completely awake. The Lotus Sutra uses visual imagery to illustrate the confusion and proposes an answer.
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited December 2009
    And how may dakinis can dance on the head of a pin...

    Yes, like anything that sentient beings touch, Buddhism has gotten sidetracked into pointless arguments and strange beliefs. I think the important thing is to keep on point and not worry about all of that. What is important is to rest in the primordial state and to practice compassion for all sentient beings equally. Everything else is just a distraction.

    It's interesting that in the little book of monastic rules I got when I got ordained it says that we can only change sex two or three times (I forget which)! OK, how does one go about that exactly?

    Palzang
  • edited December 2009
    Palzang wrote: »
    And how may dakinis can dance on the head of a pin...

    Yes, like anything that sentient beings touch, Buddhism has gotten sidetracked into pointless arguments and strange beliefs. I think the important thing is to keep on point and not worry about all of that. What is important is to rest in the primordial state and to practice compassion for all sentient beings equally. Everything else is just a distraction.

    Palzang

    We can agree to disagree on this. I think it is wholesome to address, discuss, and seek to resolve this kind of 'minutiae.' The important thing, IMO, is to not let it be a distraction; to not let it overwhelm one's trust in the Dharma; to not cave into cynical doubt. I think this is doable, via non-attachment to fixed opinions. It is interesting to me that both doubt {vicikiccha / vicikitsa 疑} and fixed opinions {dhitti / drishti 見} are considered impediments to practice.

    The resolution, for me, is to form a tentative view. That is my middle way between too taut and too loose. If I do not understand something, and lack time or interest to pursue it; I just accept my ignorance. {I can not fix my own car either; so I have a trusted mechanic.} I do not dismiss it as unimportant or 'angels dancing on a head of a pin.' To me, that is too much like sour grapes. That is just me though; I am not telling others what or how to think.

    BTW, I include the Pali, Sanskrit, and Chinese terms for reference. Those who are reading, if they are interested, can look them up and form their own opinions. All I can do is give my own tentative take. I do not know the Tibetan words at all; right now I leave that to others. I am interested though.
  • buddhafootbuddhafoot Veteran
    edited January 2010
    I think it's because women have breasts.

    I know if I had them, I would be quite attached to them and never leave them alone. Thus, my meditation would suffer, which leads to either "fear" or "ding dongs" - I can't remember which.

    -bf
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited January 2010
    :rolleyes:
  • edited January 2010
    Well,

    I have to tell you, I personally find it amazing that in this day and age, that anyone (in their right mind) thinks gender has anything at/all to do with Liberation, or Realization.

    It certainly points out one thing to me. Some people are perfectly willing to give up identifying with the small self, but are unable to go beyond gender.

    Wait a minute, does that make any sense at/all? Who are we kidding?

    I can only scratch my head and wonder at, what we let our selves and get away with. How blind are we?

    S9
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited January 2010
    Very.

    Palzang
  • edited January 2010
    physicist wrote: »
    All beings have a chance of enlightenment regardless of race and sex.

    Women in general have it tougher than men because they generally find it harder to put away their emotions compared to men. Buddhism is about being rational and acting on what is right. Emotion more often than not mars that process. However that said, there are many enlightened women in history.
    I am extremely offened at this assumption. It is wholey untrue and unbased in any scientific fact. Please don't propogate this stereotype.
  • edited January 2010
    distortedchild,

    It is my understanding that not only women get trapped in this stereotype, but men are trapped also.

    They do this in one of two ways:

    (1)They either plaster it on the other guy/gal (thereby cutting themselves off from any real in depth knowing of the other guy/gal), or…
    (2)They plaster in on themselves (simply an inverse, which keeps them from any real in depth knowing of themselves).

    Either way the trap is set, and really calls for our compassion towards them, and ourselves.

    I think now that the pendulum has swung the other way, in history, women must be careful not to use this opportunity,or as an excuse, to hit the guys up beside the head…however tempting that may sound in the moment. We must stop this chain of suffering RIGHT HERE.

    Q: "Try not to hate people for your gifts.”

    In other words your good fortune in seeing clearly is the other guy lack of good fortune in this case. (OR not seeing clearly) This is where our compassion is an adequate answer.

    Peace,
    S9
  • ValtielValtiel Veteran
    edited January 2010
    I am extremely offened at this assumption. It is wholey untrue and unbased in any scientific fact. Please don't propogate this stereotype.

    Don't be offended. In a general sense it's probably true. But it's absolutely irrelevent since Buddhism isn't about tucking away your emotions; so men have their own issues to work with. It's a misunderstanding to suggest that emotional suppression, which is just as much clinging and attachment as anything else, is beneficial in any way to the path the Buddha taught. :)
  • edited January 2010
    distortedchild,

    It is my understanding that not only women get trapped in this stereotype, but men are trapped also.

    They do this in one of two ways:

    (1)They either plaster it on the other guy/gal (thereby cutting themselves off from any real in depth knowing of the other guy/gal), or…
    (2)They plaster in on themselves (simply an inverse, which keeps them from any real in depth knowing of themselves).

    Either way the trap is set, and really calls for our compassion towards them, and ourselves.

    I think now that the pendulum has swung the other way, in history, women must be careful not to use this opportunity,or as an excuse, to hit the guys up beside the head…however tempting that may sound in the moment. We must stop this chain of suffering RIGHT HERE.

    Q: "Try not to hate people for your gifts.”

    In other words your good fortune in seeing clearly is the other guy lack of good fortune in this case. (OR not seeing clearly) This is where our compassion is an adequate answer.

    Peace,
    S9
    I don't understand what you're trying to say.
    Are you trying to say that men are normaly labeled as over emotional as well as women?
    Or are you saying that men don't understand that women aren't over emotional? :confused:
    Or is my brain not working and I've completely missed your point?
    Also, I wasn't trying to hit him upside the head, I was just saying that that sort of generalization bothers me. I'm sorry if it seemed like I was trying to be rude.:(
  • edited January 2010
    d child,

    D: I don't understand what you're trying to say.

    S9: That’s okay, I am not sure I do, all of the time, either. ; ^ )

    I am not trying to type cast guys or gals, at/all. That takes away their dignity.

    My only point is that we have to give each other Guy/Gals a BIG old break here, because a good deal that we all do/think is programmed into us by the society that we grow up in.

    It is probably because we are so ‘tuff’ on each other that, they have coined the phrase “War of the Sexes.” Wouldn’t it be nice, if we could just stop pointing fingers at each other, and placing blame on the other guy, and move past this shameful part of our history?

    There is a Psychologist named Carl Jung that says, we are all both sexes, but that men are only men on the outside (animus), and men are women on the inside (anima). Whereas, he goes on to say that, women are only women on the outside, and women are men on the inside, (This is how our psyche is split up), that these two halves of our psyche actually make one whole being, called a human being.

    So that:

    In this way, putting down any particular gender would be like denying a part of our own self. How sad is that? He feels that this split should be allowed to heal.

    Even if you didn’t buy that paradigm (above), it obviously take a sperm (male) and an egg (female) to make one baby. (This pattern keeps emerging.) So, why indulge in all of this silly quibbling about “who is best.” See what I mean?

    Lyrics: “All I am saying is give peace a chance.” La/la/la (Sorry, the devil made me do it.)

    ; ^ )


    Kind Regards,
    S9
  • edited January 2010
    Interesting way of looking at it. It's always nice to see something from a different perspective.

    Also, that song is now stuck in my head....
  • BrigidBrigid Veteran
    edited January 2010
    Don't be offended. In a general sense it's probably true. But it's absolutely irrelevent since Buddhism isn't about tucking away your emotions; so men have their own issues to work with. It's a misunderstanding to suggest that emotional suppression, which is just as much clinging and attachment as anything else, is beneficial in any way to the path the Buddha taught. :)
    Good post! (As usual.)
  • ansannaansanna Veteran
    edited February 2010
    Trace Teaching in Buddhism is like following the ancient foot prints that the historical have walked , but the people following this foot prints do not understand why is the reason or condition that made the histortical buddha teaches in the particular way to that group of people, because the buddha just taught in according to the ( unawakened ) mind of the people he met .
    The Source Teaching is when the Buddha finally revealed his true cause of enlightenment regardless if the people around him could have matured to the capacity to understand this ultimate principle of enlightenment
  • ansannaansanna Veteran
    edited February 2010
    Therefore those teaching that taught that women does not have the capacity to gain enlightenment directly in their present form are Trace Teaching ( not the True Source of Teaching ) , those teaching are provisional teaching expounded only temporary for the cultural conditional of ancient India where the group of people in that time-space are yet enlightened to accept the higher true from the Buddha's enlighenment
  • Floating_AbuFloating_Abu Veteran
    edited February 2010
    Nuns’ Community in the US
    Supported by the Saranaloka Foundation

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    This is a brief announcement to let people know that plans are afoot to help a community of nuns from the Amaravati and Chithurst lineage be established in the United States. In winter 2009, three nuns stayed for two months in the San Francsico Vihara sponsored by the Saranaloka Foundation. The nuns were pleasantly surprised by the level of support they received and plan to return to the San Francisco Vihara in winter 2010.

    To learn more about this, please visit the website for Saranaloka Foundation, which is an organization founded to foster a growing relationship with the siladharas (ten-precept nuns) of Amaravati and Cittaviveka Monasteries by supporting them on their teaching tours in the United States. Saranaloka hopes to provide facilities for a community of nuns to reside in the United States full-time.

    Saranaloka Foundation was established in 2004 to support nuns from Chithurst and Amaravati monasteries in England to come to the United States to teach. Since that time, and numerous visits later, enthusiasm for the presence of women monastics has been tremendous and is the driving force behind an invitation to the nuns' community to set up a permanent monastery here in the United States.
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