Howdy, Stranger!

It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!

Sign In Register
Examples: Monday, today, last week, Mar 26, 3/26/04
Welcome home! Please contact lincoln@icrontic.com if you have any difficulty logging in or using the site. New registrations must be manually approved which may take several days. Can't log in? Try clearing your browser's cookies.

Thankful For Loving Kindness

AllbuddhaBoundAllbuddhaBound Veteran
edited February 2010 in Buddhism Basics
It has been such a blessing in my life. It never became more clear to me than recently. I divorced my ex-wife some time back and there was a lot of acrimony in our relationship and consequent divorce.

Children were involved and it eventually got to the point where they had been dragged into the middle of it as is so often the case. Hard feelings ensued and the tug of war was on. Who is right, who is wrong. What is just. All of this further complicated by court rulings, lawyers and constant fighting.

Buddhism and loving kindness led me back to my heart. It led me back to being the person I am capable of when challenged. I have never been more thankful for it than now. My ex-wife has experienced two heart attacks over the last two days, and because of the changes Buddhism has brought into my life, I can genuinely be there and wish her the very best. Our relationship has been much stronger since I have applied loving kindness metta for her and this practice has also supported my being a much better parent for my children. When I speak to my children, I do so as a genuinely loving, compassionate man who practices what he preaches.

The truth of Buddhism and it's practices make my life better each and every day, and I am thankful for that.

Namaste

Comments

  • Quiet_witnessQuiet_witness Veteran
    edited February 2010
    I love that principle of loving kindness. It is a truth I wish more grasped; when we look out, we can more fully see in. Is your ex-wife going to be ok?

    I hope you and your family the best in all things.
  • Floating_AbuFloating_Abu Veteran
    edited February 2010
    gassho1.jpg
  • AllbuddhaBoundAllbuddhaBound Veteran
    edited February 2010
    Quiet_witness wrote: »
    I love that principle of loving kindness. It is a truth I wish more grasped; when we look out, we can more fully see in. Is your ex-wife going to be ok?

    I hope you and your family the best in all things.

    Thank you for your kindness.

    Things are still up in the air with my ex. She is stubborn and does not always give doctors permission to do what they feel they need to do.

    She truly needs some peace in her life.
  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    edited February 2010
    may your ex-wife be free from suffering.
    May she know peace.
    may she know serenity
    May she know fulfilment.
    These things I also wish for you, and your children.

    With much Metta and karuna
  • Quiet_witnessQuiet_witness Veteran
    edited February 2010
    What's funny is that the most stubborn are sometimes the ones who pull out the biggest miracles. I hope she finds peace one day and I am happy you have.
  • BrigidBrigid Veteran
    edited February 2010
    I wish your ex-wife a full and quick recovery and I wish you and your whole family peace and joy today and every day.
  • DazzleDazzle
    edited February 2010
    Many good wishes for your ex-wife's health and to you and your family, Allbuddha Bound.



    With metta,


    Dazzle

    .
  • pegembarapegembara Veteran
    edited February 2010
    The truth of Buddhism and it's practices make my life better each and every day, and I am thankful for that.


    Lots of Metta
    :):):)
  • AllbuddhaBoundAllbuddhaBound Veteran
    edited February 2010
    I am also thankful for my online Sangha. Many thanks.

    Namaste
  • PaxPax
    edited February 2010
    To the OP - Beautifully stated! The loving kindness meditation is my "go to" daily meditation, it has changed my life.

    May your ex find peace and be free from suffering.
  • PalzangPalzang Veteran
    edited February 2010
    This conversation reminds me of a video teaching we played at the temple last night. The point of the teaching was that in order to make any real progress on the path we have to be brutally honest with ourselves. If we go around pretending to be compassionate and kind while harboring resentment and hatred towards certain individuals we're not going to go anywhere. So the antidote to doing that (and we all do it, let's be honest) is to regularly examine oneself and root out those people we have negative feelings toward, whatever they may be. Which it sounds like you've done with your ex-wife, ABB. That's great and great for your practice. Doing it with someone you have a history of anger and problems with is perhaps the most difficult of all.

    Palzang
Sign In or Register to comment.