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i need an ego

questionfulquestionful
edited March 2010 in Buddhism Basics
i need an ego. can anyone help me find a good ego? thanks. and i can't be buddha, so it has to be some sort of compromise.


I'm 17. I need to have an ego I can use when I'm hanging out with friends. I don't want to be pretentious and I don't want to be attractive (i have noticed attraction from other males that I do not want).

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  • KikujiroKikujiro
    edited March 2010
    questionful wrote: »
    i need an ego.

    There's one! See! *points* :D
  • questionfulquestionful
    edited March 2010
    well i have an ego i can use for going online.

    i just saw this, thought others might find it interesting in relation to this topic.
    http://www.ajahnchah.org/video/video12.php
  • Micsunderland3Micsunderland3
    edited March 2010
    Why do you need one? What happened to your old one?

    I can sell you one i made for like 200$.
  • Quiet_witnessQuiet_witness Veteran
    edited March 2010
    lego of my ego
  • DhammaDhatuDhammaDhatu Veteran
    edited March 2010
    questionful wrote: »
    i need an ego. can anyone help me find a good ego?
    Hi QF,

    The Buddha did not urge all people towards non-ego. But he did encourage all people to develop self-respect.

    Good ego comes from loving oneself; not doing things that harm oneself; plus caring for others as one would care for oneself.

    See Attavagga and Veludvareyya Sutta

    :)
  • KarmaDondrupTashiKarmaDondrupTashi
    edited March 2010
    Pick one.

    25_1185.jpg
  • fivebellsfivebells Veteran
    edited March 2010
    Sounds like you've come a long way, QF. How're things at home?
  • PietroPumokinPietroPumokin
    edited March 2010
    i think we do zazen to release ourselves from the confinenment of our e nvironment and become more independent and in tune with our inner selves,, you keep doing zazen with an intrepid heart and do not be shaken by external environments, do not be shaken by anything be steadfast do not let your mind be bothered in the highest sense by things that disturb it , things that are actually quite trifling things, we do zazen to connect with our inner self, to know what to do at any moment, any social environment,, we learn to be flexible and pliant depending on who we are with , that our personality is fluid, and but also that there is something that makes us who we are, something firm yet receptive, that part of you when you are being completely honest with yourself, and to do this we be honest with ourselves do not be deceptive, if things are bad you admit it, if things are good you do not add any pride, never beating yourself up, staying strong and doing zazen and piercing into the depths of the mind & your life, contemplating, zazen
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited March 2010
    i need an ego. can anyone help me find a good ego? thanks. and i can't be buddha, so it has to be some sort of compromise.


    I'm 17. I need to have an ego I can use when I'm hanging out with friends. I don't want to be pretentious and I don't want to be attractive (i have noticed attraction from other males that I do not want).

    You could be the guy that listens very carefully although that might attract members of both sexes :eek: You could combine that with a lack of bathing to balance out or perhaps just be very distant and reserved.
  • questionfulquestionful
    edited March 2010
    Micsunderland3 wrote: »
    Why do you need one? What happened to your old one?
    The ones I've habitually used/developed a lot caused me problems. i know i am going to have problems with any ego, but it's like choosing a car. i'm trying to at least settle for something with a 4 stroke engine.

    fivebells wrote: »
    Sounds like you've come a long way, QF. How're things at home?
    Better. I try to avoid idle speech with my family (because of the great difference in our views, most anything we discuss can quickly turn into an angry argument), and I feel less anger towards my parents. I have gotten better at not getting sucked into their way of seeing things.

    Thanks for the input everyone. It is good to know what to keep in mind when interacting with others. With practice I will get better.
  • Micsunderland3Micsunderland3
    edited March 2010
    Ahh, i see.

    The best advice i could give is to make your own ego. One that suits your needs in any situation.
  • questionfulquestionful
    edited March 2010
    I am a gentle warrior (sword of wisdom vs. suffering). a benevolent semi-god. here in this human world, i don't worry about their foolish problems TOO much because it'll be gone before they know it. however i do try to help them and myself.

    that's what i'm working on.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited March 2010
    What I find that I need is calm and stability. And confidence that what I experience as confusion with time I will see clearly.
  • fivebellsfivebells Veteran
    edited March 2010
    questionful wrote: »
    Better. I try to avoid idle speech with my family (because of the great difference in our views, most anything we discuss can quickly turn into an angry argument), and I feel less anger towards my parents. I have gotten better at not getting sucked into their way of seeing things.
    Glad to hear things have improved.
  • jinzangjinzang Veteran
    edited March 2010
    I am a gentle warrior (sword of wisdom vs. suffering). a benevolent semi-god.

    When the shoe fits, it is forgotten.
  • questionfulquestionful
    edited March 2010
    i was with friends all day and it went well. i meditated before and throughout the day.

    at one point i thought it would be a good ego to be like the ents in the lord of the ring. i saw a big ol peaceful willow tree and i thought it would be cool to be like that peaceful wise tree.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited March 2010
    ho hum you must be hasty folk! Let entmoot commence. First we will list the names of each existing ent. We must not be hasty. We do have long names. They only describe everything that has happened to us since the beginning of time!

    Ok hobbits I got this ent draught for you to drink while we are discussing things:p It will make your ears grow and your toes wiggle.
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