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Homosexuality: Ethical or Unethical to Buddhists?
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The Evidence:
He left his wife to hang around with other single men.
A fondness for moonstones.
Always looking in the mirror of dhama.
I'll get my coat:p
Not yet! See not only do i do bad dharmic philosophy I also do bad jokes!:p
Some do and some don't. I go by only the pali suttas as they are the oldest source of Dhamma available yeah? I have some resistance to things that came later including commentaries and sub-commentaries as some of them are not tallying with the pali suttas and are obvious mis-interpretations of the Dhamma. Eg: Buddhagosa
So you are saying that the Buddha preached these other Dhamma lessons to the so and so realm and also told them to come forward with that Dhamma when the time is right and ... oh well, whatever. What reason have I got to believe this to be true and what difference would it make if I did. All that we need is there in the pali suttas we have as of now
Ananda didn't write the pali suttas and certainly didn't remember all those Dhamma lessons alone. After the Buddha's passing away, Ananda and the other enlightened monks (said to be about 500) got together and collected the Dhamma into sections and they were verbally transmitted over time until later they were put into books. They are the oldest source of Dhamma teachings we have today.
Point here is, from the limited experience I have so far on the pali suttas, they seem to have all the lessons of the Buddha that we need to end suffering and attain the highest fruits of Buddhism. I personally do not feel the need to go anywhere else and am weary of any Dhamma teachings by anyone which drastically contradicts the suttas. I am also weary of certain translations. There are so many misinterpretations out there today which is such a shame.
Well, I laughed to that comment of yours. It was funny
Well, at least we know Mat's English.....
I'd recognise that humour anywhere!
A Mahayana Buddhist would adhere to much of what the Pali canon contains, (4 NT, 8Fold Path, precepts, some sutras) but there is further additional teaching added by traditions and different schools, which are based on individual social customs, practices and ethics.
There is very little that unites the Pope and the Talmud, whereas Pali texts would mean a great deal in one way or another, to Mahayana origins.....
For example my teacher is teaching based on the mahayana lineage. From this understanding my teacher does not teach the 8 Fold path to her students. The reason, as she explains, is that until someone "has a realization which shakes the foundation of the samsaric view (my words)" they have not entered the 8 Fold path and they just have a facsimile ie 'do the right thing' which can be helpful but is not the 8 Fold.
I guess it would be more analogous to criticizing a Therevadin monks view because it contradicts the Shrimaladevi sutra, perhaps?
Did I criticize Mahayana?
I am just skeptical in believing the teachings out there (may it be Mahayana or otherwise) because there are so many misinterpretations and later additions. It is very easy to get misled.
Having been misled once, I always cross reference the things I read with the pali suttas, which is the oldest available Dhamma resource we have. I suggest you do the same. That is not to say the pali sutta translations are perfectly foolproof either. There are some doggy translations out there too.
My teacher says to test a teaching by whether it brings liberation to me. Which of course in the midst of confusion is quite difficult. But without discernment she says we wouldn't be able to study the dharma at all. Discernment is a quality we have automatically to some degree at least.
Its not about oldest translation. If I have a 4000 year old cookbook and I don't like the way the food tastes, then what good is it?
The da lai lama has no more reason to cater his speaches to the understanding of the pali canon than he does to cater to the soto zen or nichiren traditions.
What aspect in the pali suttas cannot you digest or not taste well?
It is not about "the oldest". It is about "the oldest is the most original we have and the rest are interpretations". Would you rather believe an interpretation which does not tally with the originals over and over again?
And the Dalai lama comment is in reply to what DD said. I personally have not followed Dalai Lama teachings well enough to comment on it.
I haven't read the Pali Canon. I did participate in a Pali chatroom for awhile. I'm really not criticizing it. I am simply saying that I will not restrict what I say to be consistent with something that I have not read! I also think its surprising to expect the Da Lai Lama to only teach material from the Pali Canon. The tibetan view is that there are THREE turnings of the wheel of dharma. Not one. Perhaps all three can be found in the Pali Canon but I wouldn't know.
As long as they do not take recipes of the first cookbook, alter it and then call it the same name. That is misinterpretation.
However, Dhamma cannot be a simile for cooking. Truth is truth. There is no specific "flavor" of truth although there are flavors for bread pudding. :crazy:
Anyway I'm off to bed.
Now the Pali Canon might be included in some of those bodies but it is not the limit of all three.
And if you want to continue to criticize the Da Lai Lama for teaching something outside of the Pali Canon continue. I am just saying that I find it silly. I feel that I have expressed that to a sufficient degree!
As for the 'Trikaya' I can't see what relevance that has to anything previously mentioned here.
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I think what Deshy said is that the Da Lai Lama should not teach something outside of the Pali Canon. Fundamentally what he/she is expressing is that the Pali Canon IS buddhas teaching, but that the mahayana teachings ARE NOT buddhas teaching and should not be taught. I find that a harmful view. It is a fact that there is not one world religion. But we can still be friends. The Da Lai Lama says that his religion is kindness. Can you be kind to him and allow him to teach his spiritual tradition?
I guess that is more to the point than the kayas.
I don't mind if you say the Da Lai Lama speach is not buddha's teaching. (Or David Koresh, Tom Cruise, Pope, Eckardt Tolle)(or DD or Mat or Jeffrey or Dazzle or fivebells or federica)
I do mind if you say that he shouldn't speak or tell him WHAT he should speak
peace and to all. May everyone be at ease.
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Isn't sex used in certain Tantric Buddhist traditions?, I may be wrong, but, I think I read that sex was a tool used, but, only be very high level lamas or initiates.
David.
In some historical texts and books its mentioned but often its just symbolic language for various energies arising in the body when doing certain practices. I've never heard of it happening in a literal sense offline otherwise, except in people's fantasies maybe.
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It's the all the associated attachments and clinging to it, that is the complication.
I think its just sex rather than 'tantric' sex. It's also not quite the same as a college teacher or professor hitting on a student. It's more like a celebrity hitting on a fan, because a lot of adulation and awe can be involved on the part of female Tibetan Buddhist students with regard to their male teachers.
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Thanks for the info, I've heard it's symbolic too, but, I've also heard that, in certain situations, actual sex is involved (I think it was in John Powers 'Introduction to Tibetan Buddhism', where the Dalai Lama is quoted as saying only initiates of a very high level are capable of performing it, and that there may not be any of that level around today, or something similar).
Either way, I find the Tantric Buddhist traditions really interesting (like the idea of it being capable of leading you to Nirvana in one lifetime, etc).
David.
If one were actually observing they would experience what 'did' come up rather than what they had expected to from their comprehension of a book. Which of course the two could possibly be the same.
For most, it feels good to them, whether they observe it or not.
Ordinary experience. Daily awareness. What did daily awareness mean to you? The thought that sex is harmful to buddhist practice is just an idea. If you don't see how it is so in your own experience then it doesn't really matter does it. You have to realize your practice from your own experience.
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People generally engage in sex because they are lusty & lonely.
If they can mutually mitigate these two forms of suffering with another human being in a way that does not create greater suffering, that is cool.
Personally I enjoy the pleasure and I don't consider it making love. I don't love a girl because of the sex. [I have had abundant proof in my life that sex is not proof of love. Countless examples] I love her for the mutual support. Giving and take. Because of how we are wired there is a bit of an imprint from sex but for me it is basicly a mutually pleasurable experience which we do together to feel good. It can be bodhicitta sometimes which even putting our socks on can also be.
I remember one time my girlfriend informed me that she felt that I was really finally 'making love' to her. It was ironic because that particular encounter I didn't want to have sex at all but I agreed because I didn't want to have an argument or break up because I had rejected her. That was bad communication of course but I point it out because what was inside my head and how I was perceived as 'making love' were quite different.
When I use the word ordinary I don't mean that it depresses me. Like work that I don't really want to be doing would depress me. And if you are depressed even wonderful experiences like Christmas, chocolate cake, and meditation are also depressing.
Loneliness.
Blow off some steam, some lust.
Craving & pleasure are merely two sides of the same coin.
Of course it is. Two people being compassionate towards eachother, mitigating their lust & loneliness. Be grateful.
Of course. She wants you to show a little committment and sacrifice, in doing something for "her". She wants you to show less "self-cherishing" and more Bodhisatva activity.
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Many women view sex in a different way to men and see it as the way to getting a husband ,home and children.
Sex is an overrated obsession with some people. It's just desire with physical tension and then orgasm and release with sticky fluids. Attaching 'love' to it is often a sentimental add-on. Feelings usually change in one way or another because they are impermanent.
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Come on, you know the answer to this. You burn! That's right where you want to be!
Did I even mention Mahayana in my posts? All I said was the Pali Canon IS the oldest source of Dhamma available and everything else are later additions. I am personally not interested in later additions, commentaries, sub-commentaries, interpretations etc. I find the Pali suttas more acceptable and believe it to be closest to what the Buddha must have preached. That is just my personal opinion
You mean everyone who is celibate burns? lol Then why be celibate?
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Floaty, empty, butterfly-in-the-tummy feeling....
prefer a water bed by comparison.....
Wonder if the' Mile High Club' could be something similar to copulating in voidness if a hatch was opened in the floor ? :buck:
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I was just being naughty.
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