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something i had to say and would be interested in some insight about

Ford5780Ford5780
edited June 2010 in Buddhism Basics
Ok so I know I'm as fresh in here as a cake right out the oven ,and two post already might be a little irritating. But honestly I'm not the type of guy to rant about my feelings to others(atleast I don't think I am ) not even on a remotely regular basis. I just like to present a positive attitude as much as I can. Knowing that everyone is well aware that we all have good and bad days. I like to show some effort in remaining positive in light of bad times. But today was the pits and I posted this on my page.

I'm not having such a good day. And after many moons thinking about this I must say this. I feel as though sometimes peace is not easy to share ,as much as you try to tred lightly,it feels as though an 'envy' I know the expression seems selfish. But it feels like a conscious or subconscious envy in others. of the peace one is trying to present is all ways being 'fumbled'(for lack of better words) out of ones reach. Any one share these sentiments?

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  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    edited June 2010
    No.

    But I have known and experienced them.
    This is their Suffering and Stress.

    When people belittle, ridicule or lash out at us, in a vindictive and deprecating manner, or simply let it be known through their attitudes that they do not approve of our stance, that is the time to simply smile inwardly, and offer compassion for their pain.

    People will be alienated from that which they do not understand.
    It's a natural, self-defensive trait.

    It might be catching.... How on earth could your viewpoint differ from theirs??

    Let your actions and gentle demeanour show them that as far as you are concerned, you are living exactly as you feel you should.


    Mindfully.
  • JavelinJavelin
    edited June 2010
    We really can't do much about how other people view us, especially if we're doing what we think is right.

    Rather, we can understand that what other people think still disturbs us, find out why, and try to extinguish this suffering within ourselves. :)

    Namaste
  • Ford5780Ford5780
    edited June 2010
    Tthank you all
  • OlarteOlarte
    edited June 2010
    I have found it sad that in the heat of an "argument" which I still do being human and all, both my wife and my son have pretty much thrown it back in my face (like a bucket of cold water) that if I'm so spiritual, doing all this Buddhist stuff why am I such an ass etc...

    The way I see it is that they are using whatever is at hand to hurt me as most people would under stressful circumstances. And I also reflect that my pursuing this path does not not give me an automatic skill or license for being perfect or somehow becoming non-human.

    So I end up feeling compassion for them that they should resort to "cheap shots" and I also feel compassion for myself for momentarily feeling that I have failed them and myself somehow by rising to the occasion and forgetting to be mindful.

    Then I reflect and realize that like them I too forget that I'm far from perfect.

    I then remind myself that I'm just a simple person trying to do the best that I can from moment to moment, and that I too suffer from attachments, views and emotions.

    So I then forgive them and myself and return to my humble attempts to better myself and to live in the present moment with mindfulness and purpose, and then send some metta all around :)
  • lightwithinlightwithin Veteran
    edited June 2010
    Olarte wrote: »
    if I'm so spiritual, doing all this Buddhist stuff why am I such an ass

    I often wonder that about myself. Only in different words.

    I really enjoyed your post Olarte. We should all just remember that we ARE human after all, no matter how many Suttas we read or how many hours of meditation we have under our belt.
    I also reflect that my pursuing this path does not not give me an automatic skill or license for being perfect or somehow becoming non-human.

    This is something we should all keep in mind constantly.
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