Welcome home! Please contact lincoln@icrontic.com if you have any difficulty logging in or using the site. New registrations must be manually approved which may take several days. Can't log in? Try clearing your browser's cookies.
Pride....
Hello Again! I'm here to collect opinions on the idea of pride. i have found that i take after my mum in being incredibly Proud. And. It's proving to be very difficult to work it into my practice. I'm not sure how strongly it's linked with ego, but i'm willing to take on that task as well if such is the case. I find it incredibly hard to be compassionate to myself when I can't accept help, can't back down in a debate, can't admit that I'm wrong sometimes. I'm assuming this is a natural human-mind issue, like they all are, but I'm really beginning to struggle. 
0
Comments
Sometimes it is very pronounced sometime very subtle, but self-view involves pride > humiliation > pride > humiliation......
Pride is a good Buddhist object lesson. Consider episodes of pride teachable moments.
priyajiivana,
What you are describing is certainly a human-mind issue. When we experience situations that we overly identify with ("look at what I did!" "look at what I made") the result is the sense of having to defending our-'selves' and the phenomena we're linking to that self. Working on dissolving the self will certainly help relieve that pride.
With warmth,
Matt
Congratulations! Being aware/mindful of this is the first step. Many folks behave in ways that are counter productive and they are helpless to change the patterns because they are not at all aware of their thoughts/feeling and how they lead to actions.
As we become more mindful of our inner states it is certain we are going to find flaws. It's great to just sit with those flaws and not judge ourselves harshly, but also not make excuses for those flaws. Instead, stare them in the face with a meditative mind. Become uncomfortable.
There is no answer I can give you that really will help other than to tell you that as you walk through your mind some parts will be pleasant and refreshing and others will be dark and scary. Don't run from the dark and scary parts. This is a part of your mind you have to walk through if you wish to be free from excessive pride, not being comfortable asking for help and actually arriving at a place where you are more healthy because you are willing to take care of yourself without feeling shame. You will arrive at a place where you will not feel your ego is threatened merely because someone has different opinions than you do.
Your mind, due to mindfulness has identified mental states holding you back, be greatful, it's a rare gift. Embrace it. Become comfortable with the discomfort, it is a great teacher.