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non-attachment question....
how do i explain to family/friends when i'm not 'into' something anymore?
i know i'm not required to get rid of my 'prized' possessions, but even before i started studying, i always seemed to feel better the less 'stuff' i 'owned'. i've even gone so far as floating from music genre to music genre i a vain attempt to 'relate' to something. though only one or two bands from different genres really 'do it' for me, for the most part, i get un-interested after a while.
i don't feel like it's a depression-type loss of interest, because the 'yuk' feeling goes away after a while, and i get comfortable with the situation as it is.
this is especially prudent for now, because i play in a punk band. i want to tell the others that they deserve a better, more diverse drummer than me, even though i came up with all the parts i play myself. i only became interested in punk when i was asked to play it. i did some listening and thought 'ok,, i can do this'. but the time has come, and i'm beginning to lose interest in playing.
there are some that would think that i'm doing this because i'm studying buddhism, which isn't the case. neither is it depression.
thanx
i know i'm not required to get rid of my 'prized' possessions, but even before i started studying, i always seemed to feel better the less 'stuff' i 'owned'. i've even gone so far as floating from music genre to music genre i a vain attempt to 'relate' to something. though only one or two bands from different genres really 'do it' for me, for the most part, i get un-interested after a while.
i don't feel like it's a depression-type loss of interest, because the 'yuk' feeling goes away after a while, and i get comfortable with the situation as it is.
this is especially prudent for now, because i play in a punk band. i want to tell the others that they deserve a better, more diverse drummer than me, even though i came up with all the parts i play myself. i only became interested in punk when i was asked to play it. i did some listening and thought 'ok,, i can do this'. but the time has come, and i'm beginning to lose interest in playing.
there are some that would think that i'm doing this because i'm studying buddhism, which isn't the case. neither is it depression.
thanx
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Examine the reasons you're doing whatever it is you're doing though. With reflection you may find hidden things in there. But if you decide to move on, then just move on. Not being "into" something is no crime that I know of.
Best of luck my friend...
Peace
Mtns
1. Are you saying that you don't really find any one type of music overly interesting in comparison to another type? Are you saying that you get bored with playing certain genres of music?
2. If so, are you claiming those feelings as "non-attachment" to music, to playing, to a specific genre?
3. If so, are you saying there is a problem with that? Or that you are having a problem relating that feeling to other people?
As far as #1 goes, not finding your 'nitch' just yet doesn't mean anything in particular. Just keep your eyes open, you'll find something sooner or later. It might be a different genre of music, or it might not be music at all. Most people spend their entire lives trying to find the job they like. Some never find it.
As far as #2 goes, and I'm not a Geshe or anything, but I don't think that's non-attachment per se. Non-attachment isn't about drifting through life without a meaning, without liking anything. It's more about avoiding the things that make you overly happy and overly sad, while also avoiding avoiding those things. It's also about understanding that things pass. Nothing remains the same. It's the equivalent of having a pet dog. You can love your dog, play with your dog, enjoy your dog. The important part is that you learn to live with your dog, but also live without your dog. It's about you having to understand that at some point he will die. And that's ok.
It's complicated, I know. But just because you don't like something, or you don't hate something, that doesn't mean it's non-attachment.
As far as #3 goes, I would agree with the above post. You don't have to prove anything to anyone else. If they have a problem with you or what you are doing, just forgive them, make sure you care about them, and move on. If they have a problem, it's their problem. Just make sure you don't make it worse.
i suppose, too, that this was not about music, just non-attachment in general. i was always taking things just as they are. and i just felt better about that. however, in the last number of years, i started accumulating things and all that comes with it. now i want to return to that time.
i know i don't owe anyone any explanations for my decisions. my 'worry' is they'll think it's because i'm studying buddhism. i also know that what they think is their problem.
And I know what you mean about the accumulation of 'stuff'. I noticed it a few years back. Paying attention to it helps. When you go to get something, think if you really need it.
That way, I always have the same amount.