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How to be humble
I used to be an unpopular, geeky and fat kid growing up. When I was in high school / college, I started working out, grooming and dressing better to become one of the popular kids.
From there, I've picked up a habit of acting cocky or arrogant at times when I meet people.
I would like to be more humble. So, I would like to hear your thoughts on how to become more humble.
Any books, tips or articles out there that might be helpful?
From there, I've picked up a habit of acting cocky or arrogant at times when I meet people.
I would like to be more humble. So, I would like to hear your thoughts on how to become more humble.
Any books, tips or articles out there that might be helpful?
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"What impression is this jerk in front of me, leaving with me, of himself?"
Think of what you say and do, then stop to think what they are seeing and hearing.
Consider the 5 precepts, particularly the 4th one (allied as ever with the primary precept of doing no harm, because that also includes to yourself) and think on the Eightfold path.... remember that specifically, the fourth precept echoes the Third spoke of the wheel... Right Speech. So the way you communicate is vital, and doubly so....
Consider your Intention, and your Effort.
You really don't need "books, tips and articles out there".
You know already what it is you should do.
Just do it.
Heavy thoughts knocking yourself (and attachment/obsession/identification) for being cocky are actually not helpful in themselves. Just notice these thougths too and let go of them.
For example the cocky negative behaviour might be a shield to protect you from feeling fat and geeky. As you are able to confront being less than popular. And let go of that struggle. Then you will not need the cocky behaviour.
"From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of particular interest. But for us, it's different. Consider again that dot. That's here, that's home, that's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam. The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known."
Hope this puts everything into perspective my brother.
Heh, i actually just watched it for the 1000th time before i read your post. Thanks anyway.
For anyone who hasn't heard it...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmMUuR--Qvo
So long as you hold onto being humble, you can't be it.
Very helpful article for this.
btw Love the Sagan quote. Carl Sagan has had a big influence in my life. I miss him.
(kidding...)
Mtns