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Likes and opinions?

megahumanmegahuman
edited November 2010 in Buddhism Basics
I'm new here, and this is my second post of today, as well. ;o
I've always been a bit confused on deciding on saying 'Oh, i like this food' or 'i don't like that food' but not necessarily disliking it, just not preferring it. But I don't mean this towards people, people are perfectly imperfect, right? And as well with opinions or assumptions or what have you, for example- Someone you know walks past you and you say 'Hello' but they don't reply, you shouldn't assume they're ignoring you, because there are other reasons as to why they didn't reply.

I'm not too sure in what I'm trying to say, but I think I may have conveyed my points.

Thanks! :rolleyes:
-mh

Comments

  • SherabDorjeSherabDorje
    edited November 2010
    I don't think Buddhism says you have to like everybody- just that you should treat them in a reasonably compassionate way. I think it's possible to be reserved with some people and still be in accord with Buddhist precepts. I mean, with some people there's just nothing in common except humanity. There are various Buddhist advices about choosing good company. It's possible to not have a completely friendly relationship with everyone and still be within the precepts.
  • megahumanmegahuman
    edited November 2010
    This is true, you don't, but you should be kind to them. Everyone deserves some kindness.
  • federicafederica Seeker of the clear blue sky... Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator
    edited November 2010
    I'm not really sure what you're trying to say.

    Our opinions of others are mere projections of our own ego.
    If we are offended or confused by somebody's behaviour, that is our situation to deal with, not theirs.
    Let go of a perception that judges.
  • andyrobynandyrobyn Veteran
    edited November 2010
    megahuman wrote: »
    This is true, you don't, but you should be kind to them. Everyone deserves some kindness.

    I think it is always possible to be kind ... not easy, possible and unlikely that most of us will achieve this - always, also kindness may be misunderstood by others and not perceived as such, so as federica has suggested above it is about striving to let go of perceptive judgement of others behaviour and focussing on ourselves ( being real about our limitations is part of that ).
  • megahumanmegahuman
    edited November 2010
    Understandable- i'm not sure exactly what I'm conveying.

    hmm..
    More of we shouldn't set things into 'likes' and 'dislikes' because that's not the right way to look at it? And not just for people, anything that would fall into a 'like' or 'dislike.'
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