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Appreciation vs. Attachment
So I just finished watching the move "Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter & Spring" (I highly recommend it) and the part that hit me the most was a part when:
In the movie the boy reaches teenage years and when a girl comes to the monastary, he discovers lust, which eventually leads to his departure, growing up in the normal world and conforming to it, and eventually ending his wifes life for cheating on him. He comes back to the monastary in complete anguish.
It may be a bit of an exaggerated example, as things that drastic aren't too common in every day life,
But it is a great representation of how attachment inevitably leads to destruction of yourself and others.
However, for example I still enjoy hanging out with my friends, I enjoy their company. Is this a bad thing? Where is the line between appreciating what is there, and suffering at the absense of it.
What are some good ways to practice appreciation without attachment?
In the movie the boy reaches teenage years and when a girl comes to the monastary, he discovers lust, which eventually leads to his departure, growing up in the normal world and conforming to it, and eventually ending his wifes life for cheating on him. He comes back to the monastary in complete anguish.
It may be a bit of an exaggerated example, as things that drastic aren't too common in every day life,
But it is a great representation of how attachment inevitably leads to destruction of yourself and others.
However, for example I still enjoy hanging out with my friends, I enjoy their company. Is this a bad thing? Where is the line between appreciating what is there, and suffering at the absense of it.
What are some good ways to practice appreciation without attachment?
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Try and love them while removing all conditions you have for them. Slowly do it. Notice situations when you feel uncomfortable with them. If there are moments when this happens try and ask yourself "why do I feel uncomfortable?" This is probably a condition that you have made up for your friends to conform to them. The more you do this, the more your net of friends begins to expand.