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How about an 'un-heartbreak' thread?
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My ex and I were married for just shy of five years. We split in late 2001, and divorced officially in mid-2002. Since that time we've remained friends, even though we're literally on opposite sides of the country - she on the west coast and me on the east coast. We've seen each other once in person, about three years ago when she came for a short visit while attending a conference as part of her job. We had a great time, but I didn't think that much about it at the time.
But recently I've found myself thinking more about her. Since we split up, both of us (completely independently, but bizarrely concurrently) discovered or re-discovered Buddhism, and both of us are much different than we were back then. I've grown an enormous amount, as I know she has.
So when I decided to go on a holiday over new years next month, I decided to see if she felt like going along. To my delight, she did, and she is! We've talked nearly every day since then, and while it's going to be another two years before I graduate from school, I have a suspicion we may end up back together after all these years. Not sure if that will entail me moving west, or her (once again) moving east, but I'm okay either way. By then it will be over 10 years since our divorce was finalized, and eleven since we split. This is *totally* unexpected (on both our parts I think), but welcome to me in a way I wouldn't have thought possible.
I guess it just goes to show you that you never know where life will lead you...
More news as it happens
But recently I've found myself thinking more about her. Since we split up, both of us (completely independently, but bizarrely concurrently) discovered or re-discovered Buddhism, and both of us are much different than we were back then. I've grown an enormous amount, as I know she has.
So when I decided to go on a holiday over new years next month, I decided to see if she felt like going along. To my delight, she did, and she is! We've talked nearly every day since then, and while it's going to be another two years before I graduate from school, I have a suspicion we may end up back together after all these years. Not sure if that will entail me moving west, or her (once again) moving east, but I'm okay either way. By then it will be over 10 years since our divorce was finalized, and eleven since we split. This is *totally* unexpected (on both our parts I think), but welcome to me in a way I wouldn't have thought possible.
I guess it just goes to show you that you never know where life will lead you...
More news as it happens
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It doesn't sound as promising as starting on a new relationship. But maybe Federica can put more input on that, he is the couple counselor. Either way though, good luck with what you feel is right.
seems like since you guys have matured on the path you'll know which qualities to cultivate this time around.
i have a feeling it'll all be good
have fun with the romance again my friend tee hee