Favoritism, I dont' know how I feel about it

still_learning

I grew up in a family where the sons were heavily favored over the daughters. My father was good to me overall, but I found out later when I grew up that he didn't treat my sisters so good. (he obviously cared about them, but he was also more harsh on them).

I seem to naturally view my dad in a good light because he took care of us and treated me good. In contrast, when I think about the way he treated my sisters I he seems like such a different person, a very mean person.

I get my feelings confused when he asks me for a favor and I'm iffy about it. Do I do it because he was nice to me, or do I say "no" because he was mean to my sisters?

The more I think about it I lean more towards just saying "no."

Maybe the answer is easy, but hard for me to see because I'm in the thick of it. Or maybe I'm asking the wrong question.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks.

ShiftPlusOne

Whether or not you should say yes is irrelevant to favouritism. You should say yes because it's your chance to help someone out.

As for favouritism, I think you know exactly how you feel about it - it's not right.

still_learning

Yeah, you're exactly right. I guess I just needed to hear it someone else.

Thank You.