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When feeling defeated...

TomboTombo
edited December 2010 in Buddhism Basics
In luck,in love,in life generally...how would someone aspiring to Buddhist values look at things,and more importantly,start anew?
I'm reading 'Awaken the Buddha Within' atm;the author discusses the idea of being 'reborn' with every new moment,and that idea...that we can change ourselves and our circumstances for the better...appeals to me.
But the run of adverse life changes (I won't go into details) I've suffered over the last 12 months or so seems to have sapped my joie de vivre...I feel stuck,in limbo.
From a Buddhist perspective,how do people deal?
Sorry to sound depressing! Any advice is sincerely sought,and welcome.

Tom x

Comments

  • SherabDorjeSherabDorje
    edited December 2010
    Embrace limbo. Experience it in its fullness. Lean into it. Relax and just let it be what it is.

    Suggested reading is Tara Brach "Radical Acceptance" and Pema Chodron "When Things Fall Apart".

    Joie de vivre isn't all it's cracked up to be. :)
  • zombiegirlzombiegirl beating the drum of the lifeless in a dry wasteland Veteran
    being "reborn" in every moment means letting go of the past. if i dwell too much on the past, i am sure to think of failures and hurtful memories. if i think about this moment and make sure i am making positive choices for the future, my future is more likely to be a bright one.

    relationships end for very real reasons. sometimes, maybe i was too immature and it might have been my fault. sometimes, my lover was too immature and wasn't what i needed(wanted?) them to be. sometimes, we just weren't right for each other. but in either case, i'm sure i learned something that will prepare me to be better in the future.

    i believe that no lesson is wasted and we can constantly improve ourselves if we wish to. i try to remember that it is our struggles that will teach us to grow, teach us to be compassionate. a life without struggle is a life without the chance for improvement.

    and above all, remember, life is in constant flux. nothing lasts forever, even sorrow. this too shall pass.
  • TomboTombo
    Very sage advice...thank you both. Hopefully I'll be in a position to return the favour someday. ;-)
  • SpacelessSpaceless
    edited December 2010
    Nothing exist at all besides pure loving kindness. Hope that this is also sage advice that deserves a favor :cool:
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