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handling physical feelings.
What's a good way to approach feelings of pain, cold, etc?
Sometimes I shake greatly when I'm cold.
Sometimes I shake greatly when I'm cold.
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also make sure your not having aversion toward the feelings. it is good to prefer not to be in pain, but if you are say, waiting out in the cold for the bus and you can't avoid the cold, just feel the cold, accept that it is there and exist above it.
edit: yea TJ said it
Grab a blanket, wear a hat and scarf, and ankle warmers.
If your extremities get cold, then it's hard to feel warm.
I've always been of the opinion it should be compulsory for humans to hybernate during cold winter months....
Edit: haha, only the cold? What about blistering heats we seem to get?
What about looks? I am pretty/I feel pretty, etc. What are the differences/similiarities?
Thank you!
this is the same as saying i am cold. you are identifying with the cold, you are in a sense becoming the cold. and when you are something you don't like you feel a strong aversion, which is a cause of suffering. if you just feel cold then well, that's not so bad its just a sensation.
if you start saying i am pretty then you start attaching to that because it can't be separated from your concept of self. so if you lose it you feel deep pain, or if someone says you're not pretty you feel a deep pain as your self is damaged.
saying that you ARE something creates attachment or aversion depending on whether you prefer it or not, these attachments and aversions cause pain.
Thanks, I've never heard this.
So, if I'm cleaning, would I say, I am cleaning?
a story i heard was of a man who came to a monastery and asked a monk what his true self was. the monk was sweeping and he didn't answer. the guy went and complained to the abbot that the monk ignored him but the abbot said that no, the monk had answered as best he possibly could. he showed the man his true self, the sweeper.
a helpful image is the "river of being." a river is something identifiable as a unit, but every second all of it is changing. the drops of water are different drops of water. the swells are different, the individual ripples aren't the exact same. no part of the river is actually the same, but we still see it as the same river. over time more drastic changes come, the river may change shape or flood, we still think of it as the same river although it is utterly changed.
the self is constantly changing, even the body, every seven years we are made up of entirely different cells. no part of you is the same as before
(well this isn't entirely true in some tissues but you get the idea.)
True mindfulness is doing things wholely, without letting yourself be distracted, right?
your action still does not fully define you but it is the best description you could possibly give of who you really are.
on another note i really like these little things you can say to yourself that help you understand Buddhist teachings at a deeper level. whenever i'm feeling happy/sad/suffering etc. i always say i'm feeling ____ and whenever i'm doing something i always say to myself i'm doing ____ and whenever i want or don't want something i always say i'd like ____ or i wouldn't like ____. it's a little trick that helps you keep from identifying with things as this invariably causes attachment or aversion.
But I do get it, being aware, not letting the thought dominate what you see or do, controlling it. People go through the day in a daze nearly, focusing on the past or future. I read it in a book called Happiness.
the main point is that what you "are" is what you "are" at the present moment.
Thank you very much!