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Hey guys, I've been browsing this forum for a while and it's really helped my practice, so I've finally decided to make an account and contribute.
I have a question though, with a little background story
Although I'm a beginner Buddhist (less than 5 months) it seems as though I have made a lot of progress to end suffering. Long story short, after a rough spot in my life I began reading a lot about Buddhism, and a lot of the concepts (noble truths, precepts, etc) aligned with beliefs I've had/sort of had to begin with, which is why I became so interested in Buddhism. Ever since I started seriously practicing it and meditating, I remember coming to a blissful 'ah-ha' moment when meditating once and ever since then I've seen a significant change in my thought processes. I feel as though I'm completely free from judgment and prejudices (to be fair, I didn't have much to begin with), and I don't feel negative emotions as much. Even when I do, I can just view them from sort of a third person perspective and turn them around. I also feel a great sense of inner peace, not only mentally but physically as well, especially right after meditation, but it lasts throughout the day.
So my question is that is this progress normal for a beginner and am I on the right track? If so, I don't have any Buddhist schools or anything in my immediate area so you guys are one of my main sources of info, so how can I further my practices even more?
Sorry for the long post, but I'm looking forward to contributing to the site and making new friends now that I finally made an account haha
Thanks!
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“..so how can I further my practices even more?”
You want even more?
That sounds like an obstacle to me.
If I would try and give “advice”, it would sound like this:
Just keep looking for true wisdom without getting narrow minded.
Just keep meditating without chasing “special experiences”.
Try to live your life with a pure heart.
I am curious what everyone else comes up with.
For me –after a year or so - participating in sesshin made a huge impact.
It will give you the ability to pay attention in class and help you avoid bad distracting paths.
Continue the practice and you will have a great life.
I'd say progress at a state that you are comfortable with In my mind, there is no need to be more or less a Buddhist.
When I've been to my local Sangha for teachings, I'm struck how close my long held views and conclusions to life weren't that different to Buddha.
The difficulty for me is with meditation... for example, I find it quite easy to "let things go", I generally have dealt with negative feelings towards others and at the end of 5 minutes my mind is where I want it to be.
Also, I work in a very "non-skilful" team at work and struggle to deal with situations that deeply frustrating as I've not got sufficient wisdom to deal with them.
Everyone's path is different as is the pace we travel along it, so chill
Sometimes when meditation comes easily to someone, it's because of past life practice. Be careful to not get attached to your easy progress--beware: ego trap!
Perhaps get "out in the field" more and see what happens. Do good things and also see what happens when someone might p*ss you off. The latter (getting p*ssed off) comes with all sorts of lessons; some take months to learn.
Matter of fact I sometimes feel blessed when someone gets under my skin: it allows me to focus more on what I'm doing wrong and what needs improvement. :banghead:
Just a thought. That's the way I test myself. Good luck!
Maybe that should be the objective test of Buddhahood....to last a week in my office without being p**sed off with someone
Maybe semantics but I don't feel anger, just frustration that sometimes leads to unskilled behaviour.
Any thoughts?
Actually it's easier to have to Buddhist aspirations than it is to have no idea WTF (sorry) is going on.
I definitely still feel anger and other unpleasant emotions from time to time, but it's less often. And when I do feel anger or whatever I just recognize what I'm feeling and why instead of just going with it, which I find helps tremendously.
I don't think there is such a thing as "healthy anger" although I do see your point.
For example, I am vehemently opposed to many of the policies and actions of the current government in the UK. I find that they lack compassion and are intrinsically selfish. However, these are common human failings though and to react with anger would not be healthy. To voice disagreement constructively and vocally is far more likely to result in positive change....rather than reacting with anger
Spock: you can use your anger to do just what you suggest: to motivate you to bring about positive change. Anger doesn't have to be directed at someone, as in an outburst. Anger can be the fuel that energizes one to launch movements for social change, and the like.
OOPS! we are waaaay off topic. Sorry!
What is your practice currently? How long and frequently do you meditate? Sitting only? What type of concentration practice do you do?
Now, you have a long journey ahead of you. You see, there is a next step. Right now, you are practicing the "This is me, being mindful," and "This is me, meditating" stage. Your practice is something you have to choose to do, deliberately. You watch your actions and thoughts and correct them when old habits crop up.
But, like someone learning something like a physical sport, the entire reason for practicing is to get better at it and be able to do it naturally. Instead of "This is me, being mindful," you are just mindful. Instead of "This is me, meditating" any quiet moment is a meditation. You develop what we in Zen call your normal, everyday mind.
Your understanding and practice will continue to unfold as life unfolds. Marvelous, isn't it?
But in my experience, the more progress we feel we are making, the more we look back and wonder what we were thinking before!
I think our propensity for anger will inevitably diminish as we progress.
So in order to get to this next step, I just have to keep meditating, being mindful, etc and it will just happen on its own?
In China, there were several great laypeople. Perhaps the most notable was Layman P'ang and his family. It is said that each of them was enlightened. His daughter was said to be especially brilliant. Although she was the youngest member of the family, she was very sharp and had a way of having the last word.
One day, the Layman, musing on life and practice, uttered these words of wisdom: "Oh, difficult, difficult, difficult! It's like trying to scatter ten thousand sesame seeds over a tree." The wife right away retorted, "Oh, easy, easy, easy! It's like touching your feet to the ground when you get off the bed." The daughter was not to be outdone. Immediately she commented, "Not difficult, not easy! On the tips of ten thousand grasses, the patriarchs' meaning," What kind of patriarchs' meaning can we find on the tips of grass? If you find that, you will get the true dharma eye.
What this means is, how difficult or easy following the Dharma is, can only be answered by yourself. Hard? Easy? The Dharma unfolds like a flower. My understanding of the Noble Truths twenty years ago was not wrong, but today I have a deeper understanding. Next year, different maybe.
Hope this helps.
Okay, there's a lot you can do to go deeper into Vipassana.
- Stop doing the "positive word"/"negative word" thing! (Or at least keep that as a separate type of meditation.) In mindfulness meditation, you're supposed to be mindful of what you are feeling, not deliberately trying to take in good thoughts and force out bad ones. In fact, the type of meditation you are doing is not familiar to me as part of the Vipassana tradition.
When you go wordless (or reduce reduce the words), expect to see a much more distracted mind! And that's where the big insights are!
- Include into your practice meditating in blocks of 40 minutes or more. This is a key point since deeper concentration will assist in deeper insight. It is likened to starting a fire by rubbing sticks together. You can't keep putting down the sticks...
- Walking meditation. Do it. It's a great practice, and a great way to introduce deep mindfulness into a normal activity. But it also is useful for...
- Create your own personal meditation retreat: On a day where you have lots of spare time, meditate for around 3 hours. You can do this by alternating between sitting meditation and walking meditation (otherwise your butt and legs may get too sore). When you are comfortable with this, try an 8-hour long "retreat."
- Read an instruction guide on how to do insight meditation. My recommendation is this:
http://www.urbandharma.org/pdf/mindfulness_in_plain_english.pdf
There are many more things, but this is a start. Keep us posted.