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odd debating thought!! - secret conversion?
i've been thinking of beauty of loving kindness meditation and the reasons behind me wanting to keep my conversion to buddhism a secret from my family. How can meditate on wishing all beings peace, calm and wanting to reduce their suffering when if I announce im now a buddhist this would potentially cause my family a lot of suffering?
does this need to keep my new found way of life a secret make me less of a buddhist? I saw another post where anthony touched on this same topic but i'm actively looking to keep my lifestyle quiet?
There is no restriction in Buddhism, come and go as one's like. Buddhism is enlightenment and enlightenment is a way of life, and the way of one's life is loving-kindness and tranquility.
Your religion is your own business, but relationships are built on trust and honesty. When a relationship involves the keeping of major secrets, like I have chosen a different religion or I am having an affair, their foundation of trust is gradually weakened. There are compassionate and skilful ways of 'coming out,' so to speak and timing is important. It might be helpful to read how others have done this, but remember that you need courage in life to meet the Dharma/Dhamma, and to be able to love those who find it difficult to accept you as you are. There is no easy path here.