idol speech.

ashighasifeel

Suggestions on getting people to open up? What happens when people are unwilling to? My soul feels trapped when I have to discuss popular culture and tell stories, it feels like living on the surface. I've just moved to a new place where the level of depth of people (or that which they wanting to show) seems marginal. I'm around people most of the day and this is causing me to feel like I need people around when I am alone, but I have a hard time interacting on the surface level. Hmmm... any help or insight would be appreciated- speak freely.

Jeffrey

Sounds how like I feel when I am with my grandparents. Not much in common. Keep sparking and you will eventually find someone who has kindling.

revkusala

Sounds like you are becoming aware of what right speech is for you. practice kindness for others when you "withdraw" but also be mindful of how to concentrate on the dhamma in your thoughts and speech. not easy, but you are flowing in that direction. let the dhamma be your support and you will eventually start finding people to relate to on a different level.

powerful_one

ashighasifeel - perhaps you are a bit struggling with moving to a new place? so now the new people seem strange to you. if this is the case, it is wise to not seperate yourself so harshly from others. i hope that makes sense - not really used to sharing in english so much

Dakini

Where do you live, Ashighasifeel? I have bad news; in most parts of the West, people do tend to be superficial (present company on this site excepted, of course ). People from the East (including, generally, Eastern Europe), and Indigenous cultures, as well as Latins, tend to be warmer and make deeper friendships. Try checking out other cultures. This has been my life experience.

ashighasifeel

thanks all for the guidance,
revkusala this has tended to be my experience, but i am getting anxious because i've moved away from the dharma over the past year and the harder i try to regain a state of mind i once had the further it drifts away. i think it will be helpful to keep a kind mind when listening to others.
dakini i just relocated to the midwest of the united states, and i agree. i was a bit sheltered from society... i have been moving travelling abroad for a good portion of my adult life and spent some time living in a mahayana community... it's hard to 'integrate' back into american culture and society when u are so used to getting deep, quickly and i feel like i need that support for social well being... i might have to look at this from another angle.

GuyC

I think you mean "idle" speech, not "idol" speech.

ashighasifeel

whoops. either works perhaps. thanks.

formermonkJohn

if your at the temple and you comment on the statues, is that "idol speech"??

Cloud

rofl!

ashighasifeel

:nyah:

Jeffrey

Billy Idol's speech was idol speach...