The difference between letting go and repressing

Epicurus

What is the difference between letting go and repressing something? How can you tell you really are accepting things as they are and not burying them deep into your subconscious.

being

I would think the difference could be 'measured' with how peaceful (and accepting) one's feeling at the moment of the potential acceptance/repression.
And for that I guess high level awareness can be useful.

From my own experience I would say, that 'real acceptance' just feels liberating. -_-
(Not that I would be any good at it, tho )

SherabDorje

I would think the difference could be 'measured' with how peaceful (and accepting) one's feeling at the moment of the potential acceptance/repression.
And for that I guess high level awareness can be useful.

From my own experience I would say, that 'real acceptance' just feels liberating. -_-
(Not that I would be any good at it, tho )

I'll go along with this. I'm at a point in my life in which a whole lot of sh*t has come back to bite me on the ass, and I've been psychologically toasted for about the period of time I've been posting on this forum.

I would say if you have a feeling of anxiety or uneasiness or you have intrusive or obsessive-type memories then stuff is repressed, but if you feel generally at peace with life, you've probably let go.

But basically, it beats the sh*t out of me.

newtech

Hello:

If u repress u will feel resistence and tightness in body and mind.

Epicurus

I do generally feel at peace with life. Apart from some health issues you could say I've never been happier in my life (because my soul searching adventure has proved immensely profitable) But I wonder if letting go leaves any room for unfinished business...

fivebells

Letting go means you're aware of the situation, you're not trying to ignore any aspect of it (including your compulsion to control it, possibly), but not trying to control it. Repression means you're trying to ignore something.

taiyaki

letting go is total acceptance. so you totally feel an emotion and then you accept it complete. you can only do this when you are aware of the emotion. if you are unconscious, you let your conditioning react against the emotion. usually in favor or against. thus causing the emotion to have power over you. with complete awareness of the emotion, you have an acceptance. whether its there or not, you don't care. you just watch and accept it. thus the emotion runs it course and goes away.

ThailandTom

My father is not exactly the best father to say the least. He was never a drunk, or beat my mother or anything, but he did cheat on her, they split when I was seven years old. The thing is, he never speaks to me and I never speak to him. I have never really had a relationship with him and it is the same with my sister. Now, there was a time when I was angry and hated him, now I feel that I don't need a dad in my life and I feel no pain. I wish him no harm but I don't care to speak or to see him as I know I will just get let down over and over.

So, is this repression or letting go?

taiyaki

indifference is no different from acceptance.

so whether you hate or love him now is up to you.

accept your hate. accept your love. finally accept your indifference.

Cloud

I don't equate the word acceptance with indifference. Indifference carries a tone of uncaring, apathy.

@ThailandTom, That just sounds like not having any special connection with your father anymore, as if he's just anyone else. It happens. I don't think that's repression at all.

DairyLama

What is the difference between letting go and repressing something?

For me "letting go" has the feel of allowing things to pass, rather than indulging them. But this requires an initial recognition and acceptance, rather than a pushing away or denial.

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