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Renewing of vows
kokoro
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Hey there,
Having been following the Buddhist path for a few years now, and also approaching our 25th wedding anniversary, my wife and i decided that we'd renew our commitment to each other with a different approach to the one we took when we married.
We were married in the Catholic tradition (though i'm not Catholic and never have been, my wife was) but were never practicing, i think we went that way as it was the done thing getting married in a church.
I'm a practicing Buddhist and my path is somewhat different now to back then, and we feel that this approach should be reflected in our next step together.
I would like to think that this ceremony isn't unique to us, so i was wondering if anyone here has done, or been a part of, or even knows of a renewing of vows with a Buddhist outlook.
I'd be looking for information on what could be said, possibly suttas that could be applicable or any words that could be spoken on the day.
We have contacted a Buddhist centre and they've agreed to help us, even to point of giving us a blessing of sorts, but this is new to them also, we were also hoping to have the guests blessed upon receiving a kata.
We've yet to go into specifics with the centre but thought we'd get some wisdom from some of you kind people here, hope someone can point us in a direction.
Mike
Having been following the Buddhist path for a few years now, and also approaching our 25th wedding anniversary, my wife and i decided that we'd renew our commitment to each other with a different approach to the one we took when we married.
We were married in the Catholic tradition (though i'm not Catholic and never have been, my wife was) but were never practicing, i think we went that way as it was the done thing getting married in a church.
I'm a practicing Buddhist and my path is somewhat different now to back then, and we feel that this approach should be reflected in our next step together.
I would like to think that this ceremony isn't unique to us, so i was wondering if anyone here has done, or been a part of, or even knows of a renewing of vows with a Buddhist outlook.
I'd be looking for information on what could be said, possibly suttas that could be applicable or any words that could be spoken on the day.
We have contacted a Buddhist centre and they've agreed to help us, even to point of giving us a blessing of sorts, but this is new to them also, we were also hoping to have the guests blessed upon receiving a kata.
We've yet to go into specifics with the centre but thought we'd get some wisdom from some of you kind people here, hope someone can point us in a direction.
Mike
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I am neither expert on marriage nor Buddhism per se, but know lots of folks' traditions.
No Sangha where I live.
I've got Thich Nhat Hanh's book Chanting from the Heart, which contains most of the ceremonies that the Plum Village monastics have. Nothing about renewing vows, but there is a section in it for a wedding. Perhaps it could be adapted for renewal purposes...?
It looked like a regular Western Buddhist wedding ceremony, (Anglican or Unitarian with Buddhist terminology) minus the paperwork.
I also suspect from your post that your practise is Tibetan and if so, a Tibetan teacher officiating might be more meaningful.
They are located in another state (our original hometown).
Thank you for the suggestion Riverflow, will def check that out.