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Which of the 5 Buddhist precepts do you usually break?
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I do drink, but I set up way to ensure that I cannot harm others while I am drinking. I know my limits and don't drink so much I lie or cheat or steal, and I make sure I know how and when I am going home, or drink at home. Its not ideal but I am not ready to completely go sober (I drink around once a month maybe).
I only have sex with my partner, but we aren't trying for a baby right now, so some strict followers may feel that is unnecessary sex, however I feel it is a way of showing affection, trust and passion, all of which are positive in my books
I really have a problem with the drinking precept. Drinking over here is as normal as drinking a water. It is really really really difficult for me to quit drinking. I have drunk myself into destruction before, and now I watch out, I drink but I don't want to overdo it. I feel like I wasted the best part of my life already to drinking. I once woke up from a bad hangover feeling like I've became the dumbest person in history, and I still feel like that.
And I do get more relaxed after 3 beers or so, but that just isn't the way it goes around here. I hate myself for drinking so much, and I'm the only one to blame for it. And every weekend I go out and drink...
Not much problems with the other precepts, except the sex thing but I consider that for lay people, I'm just still an ordinary young boy...
/edit: and I wrote this text while being quite drunk. *sigh* big changes are coming up for me real soon. Can't handle this lifestyle anymore
No you are not the dumbest person in the world but you might have made a choice about drinking and I hope that you can keep thinking about what you want and not feel trapped as if you have no choice. Meditation even on the spot just noticing for 5 or 10 minutes a craving can help. Becoming mindful of the relaxation, the hangover, and the regret (seeing dumb) is also already happening it sounds like to me.
As for the rest of the precepts. Everyone can do as they wish, just don't complain when unpleasant consequences happen to you.
If it is about having sex, nobody would be complaining!
I actually think this is a grey area, but I do struggle with being completely honest about certain topics with my family. I guess this is the "lie of omission."
Just like sitting in a garage doesn't make me a car, calling myself a Buddhist doesn't make me a Buddhist.
I've always been fairly moral though. I'm disappointed in a lot of the comments I've read here. I was interested in reading what people confessed to, not this.
But I'm new to Buddhism, and still unsure if bring curious of such stuff is even right minded to begin with.
BTW, walking out of the office with a pen or stepping on a bug you didn't see is not evil. It's the intention behind an action that counts. If you set out to steal the pen, or you set out to squash the bug, then that's malicious intent. That generates negative kamma (karma). Unintentional acts such as those do not. We try our best. "White lies" are another whole subject (that has also been discussed here). Basically, we should strive to always use "right speech" (part of the Noble Eightfold Path), which doesn't include lying. But there are no absolutes.
Coffee and tea are perfectly fine. They don't cloud your mind (they may rev it up, but they don't cloud it as alcohol or drugs do). Lots of Buddhists have sex. If they didn't Buddhism would die away!
Once a young monk, after living in the temple for some years, asked for an audience with the old Master.
"Master," the monk said, "You gave me a list of ten vows when I first joined the temple, and told me keeping the vows was my practice. Nine of the ten vows I have no problem with. But, I can't stop thinking about women. All day and all night, my blood boils. Even the mellons in the garden got me flustered this morning, and in order not to be embarassed I had to...you know."
The monk hung his head in shame. "I have failed in my practice. I can only obey nine of the vows, no matter how hard I try."
The Master looked at the monk in astonishment. "You've managed to keep nine of the vows? Why, I can never keep more than six of them for a single day! You should be teaching me."
Anyway, the purpose of the precepts is not about 'following rules', but rather to create conditions that are conducive to insight and awakening. The precepts are to refrain from unskillful, adhammic activities. This is not a good v. bad situation, but a what will bring about the end of suffering situation. How serious are you? Now, I still fudge the precepts and I realize this reflects a lack of seriousness about my situation. I am working to improve here, even though I've never formally taken the five precepts. Perhaps someday I'll really hunker down and do it though. Until then, I will use them as guidelines and suffer the consequences when I fail to follow them.
I'm not saying this to nitpick you just giving a heads up on a way to have a few brews and stay totally clear.