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Whats the 1 thing that really, really bugs you?
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yes, I know we should analyse what is going on and realise there is no reason to be angry, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who has a really trigger.
Mine is parents who do not really want their children. I love my son dearly and we had some horrible stuff going on when he was conceived, but we worked hard as a family to bring him up right, we are still enjoying every day with him and I don't see that ever changing even when he leaves home and I only see him on his terms... Why would they have a bunch of babies all together to (and I quote) "Get the potty training and nappies and sleepless nights all over and done with at once" or "there's 2 years between all of mine except the youngest [no 5!] when there is only 20 months, which is really hard to cope with sometimes , except my 11 year old helps out" why do they have 5 is they are finding it hard to cope? why does the 11 years old have to help out? She should be enjoying her own childhood
sorry, just thought a space to rant might help those of us trying really hard not to upset people.
Mine is parents who do not really want their children. I love my son dearly and we had some horrible stuff going on when he was conceived, but we worked hard as a family to bring him up right, we are still enjoying every day with him and I don't see that ever changing even when he leaves home and I only see him on his terms... Why would they have a bunch of babies all together to (and I quote) "Get the potty training and nappies and sleepless nights all over and done with at once" or "there's 2 years between all of mine except the youngest [no 5!] when there is only 20 months, which is really hard to cope with sometimes , except my 11 year old helps out" why do they have 5 is they are finding it hard to cope? why does the 11 years old have to help out? She should be enjoying her own childhood
sorry, just thought a space to rant might help those of us trying really hard not to upset people. 0
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In many traditional societies around the world, the oldest, upon reaching a certain age, is expected to help care for the little ones. Depending on how the oldest one is raised, and how close the relationship is between him/her and the parents, that can be ok, and can help develop a sense of responsibility.
To answer your OP question, which is different from the text of your OP, the 1 thing that really bugs me is arrogance. Ego.
1. People having kids who have no business having kids
2. People having animals who have no business having animals
3. People hating other people because they look/think/act/have sex/eat/wear clothes that are different from the "norm"
4. People who start wars in the misguided belief that it will solve something
5. People who masquerade behind so-called "religion" in order to persecute or kill
6. People who drive in the left lane on the highway even if there's no one in the right lane
I could go on and on
My main bugbear is those vacuous 'girly girl' types who wear loads of makeup and giggle and simper their way through life, being nice to each other's faces and then tearing each other apart behind each other's backs. Luckily I don't have much contact with that type of person these days, which makes it much easier for me to include them in metta meditation from time to time.
Mega-corporations pulling the wool over people's eyes to justify their own greed, and the politicians (most of them!) who only help them.
"Religious" people (please note the quotes).
Spousal, child and animal abuse.
And birth control is not rocket science.
Birth control can be a tricky one though, we were using it carefully when our wonderful baby came along and we would never regret him, but it goes to show how easy it is to fail... I think sterilisation should be available to anybody who wants it, not just 'women over 30 with too many kids' as it is here...
@AHeerdt me too.
Locusts are food for many bird species, and I suspect they may feed on microscopic pests in the soil, but I'm not sure. They must serve a function in the environmental pecking order. Maybe modern farming methods (or mass agriculture in general) caused these locust plagues, by creating enormous fields of their favorite food, miles and miles of land full of their favorite food. Just a guess.
I know that in China, when Mao initiated a campaign of killing all the birds in Peking, the locust visitation in the agricultural areas in subsequent years was horrific. Mao had unwittingly removed the locusts' predators.
.. but I like the addage: an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure: In this case, keeping the population at a healthy level from the outset as opposed to knocking it out from the equation.
Striking the fly,
I hit also
A flowering plant.
~Issa
The truth as I see it, as a mother of two under-5s myself, is that NO-ONE can 'afford' children. There is always going to be something that makes you less than ideal as a candidate for parenthood. There is never enough time, room, money or patience. What children need is LOVE, and lots of it. All the other stuff is just detail and can be worked around.
Child and animal neglect/abuse, however, is a serious issue. The thing is, people who do this aren't always 'bad' people. You can't always spot them just by looking, and observing isolated occasions where a parent doesn't seem to be interacting except to scold does not necessarily mean that abuse is taking place. It could just mean that the parent and child are having a tough time at the moment.