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Buddhism and Gossip

MyloMylo
edited January 2012 in Buddhism Basics
When in a large group of people, and everyone starts gossiping, what should you do? Walk away? Stay there and say nothing? Tell them to stop?

Comments

  • compassionate_warriorcompassionate_warrior Veteran
    Develop a different group of people to hang out with, over time?
  • LittleMightyLittleMighty
    I typically just change the subject.
  • IktomiIktomi
    When in a large group of people, and everyone starts gossiping, what should you do? Walk away? Stay there and say nothing? Tell them to stop?
    Talk about them.
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    Don't join in gossip. Talk about non gossip things if the opportunity arises. Politely and quietly take your leave if the situation allows.
  • DaltheJigsawDaltheJigsaw Mountain View Veteran
    Move on...Lead by example.
  • AMHAMH
    If you cannot leave, such as family or work, I have done a few things. One is to say something like 'I prefer to hear it from the person directly' if it is okay to be a little more confrontational. If I need to be smoother than that I will say something positive about the person, not so much defending them to cause more strife but acting a little dumb by saying a nonsense nice thing. So there is talk about someone's choice in boyfriends and I may say 'you know X recommended the best book, I really enjoyed it'.

    Sounds dorky, it is quite a balancing act to redirect with the focus on not creating more negatives. You can do that by reacting to the person who is gossiping actually when it feels like you supporting someone.
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