More kind then others as weak.

Denkatsu

I keep finding from some that kindeness is a weak path we must be regid and rejectfull of what we come into contact with. I find myself constantly fighting this. First I shrug off the misconception then look for a compassoniate out source.

Lady_Alison

I think you can do more with kindness, compassion, love, patience, mindfulness and al good qualities than with negative ones.

One keeps you outside yourself and helping others...the other is self absorption and suffering.

Kindness, not weak....kindness is a superpower fueled by suffering.

Suffering is a super power.

Denkatsu

I come into contact with people there rigid you must be cruel. Tey push this on you cause well your kind in your nature. cause they think thats weak. Then I wanna be grrr angry Im not weak! Im strong! Let me show you! But Im only finding results thru kindness and understanding.

Denkatsu

and letting that part of me go.

Seeking_peace

I would rather be seen as kind and weak, Than cruel and strong. But I would never consider kindness as weakness.

Lady_Alison

Op...I'm tired...forget what I said. I just wanted to say hello, hope you and family are doing ok.

Denkatsu

My daughter was sick with flu last week but she is well now. And im appreciating being a father more then ever now. =D

Denkatsu

Im so gratefull. I shouldnt be so foolish. A blessing right in front of me.

Seeking_peace

Children make life worth living. One of the most difficult things I struggle with is remembering my son is still just a child. Sometimes I expect too much of him.

Denkatsu

I like to approach my daughters anger with a compassionate approach work thru the lazy snap and aggervation and meet it head on coast it into love.

Denkatsu

I was that child lol actually. Try and balance it give him time to be a kid.

Denkatsu

I would suggest spending time with them one on one as well.

Denkatsu

Make them feel special and loved. Believe only there father or mother can do that.

person

I recently made a post about how to be compassionate to enemies that I think touches on some of your question and how true compassion isn't weakness.

http://newbuddhist.com/discussion/14402/how-to-be-compassionte-to-enemies

Denkatsu

Ive come along way from my youth in controling my angry impulsive outbursts. I watch constantly feel it rage up in me. Then I just let it go. Thank you.

Denkatsu

would I be wrong to say that energy is there for a reason I wonder.

person

would I be wrong to say that energy is there for a reason I wonder.

The positive side of anger is determination if thats what you mean. Though determination can exist without anger and anger clouds the judgement and leads to poor decisions and poor outcomes.

etherea

Going back to the OP - kindness and compassion are certainly not a sign of weakness. It takes a great deal of strength sometimes to remain true to your beliefs.

taiyaki

Any fool can destroy and be negative.

This is what I teach in my art class. It takes courage and true strength to create.
When we do artwork it is an extension of ourselves. With an open, curious attention one should attend to their creative process.

They don't know yet but they are touching the beauty within themselves.

And as a teacher/adult we must embody such beauty. This is the greatest gift you can give for anyone.

And we cannot really judge others for they are merely products of their conditioning.

So a truly confident, marvelous, and open being would embody a compassionate, sane, peaceful expression.

And from that point of view. There isn't much to say.

AMH

I think the more I learn about assertiveness the better that balance becomes. I am still seen as overly kind in some situations. Part of that is I handle employee issues in private so others do not see the assertiveness but it is respectful. There are times I can still be taken advantage of for kindness.

Part of assertiveness balanced with kindness is being clear and direct. Not leaving the other person with a vague idea of what is expected from them or what the consequences are. So the easy ones are a staff being late to work, the worst one was telling staff they had to speak to the English speaking parents and use English as much as possible in front of the children who did not speak Spanish. Still breathing deep, thinking peaceful resolution for all, and then holding firm. Without the compassion peace there are half a dozen difficult conversations that could have gone really bad.