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Negativity towards everyone..
Jeffrey
Veteran
I have been noticing that I have strong negativity towards everyone. I have tapes continually in my mind pointing out that I am negative towards everyone. And it's true. I don't know how to get out of it. I guess I have to do my time now for nasty thoughts.
A couple people in particular keep coming again and again. Someone I really admire but because of something I know about them, their health, I continually feel weird about them and I can't stop it. The tapes just keep going round and round.
A couple people in particular keep coming again and again. Someone I really admire but because of something I know about them, their health, I continually feel weird about them and I can't stop it. The tapes just keep going round and round.
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In many ways, having negative thoughts about people is very normal. I think I struggle with that too. The good thing is that you are aware of it, right.
Have you been meditating at all? How are the meds?
I have a higher quality of life on moderate meds because I have the life energy to do things and be with these people ^
I might try painting. I used to love that. I like it. But the problem is that my wrist would probably be worn down. Yeah I know it's part of life. There are positives too with the negative tapes. I am exploring a different part of me. Soft emotional music. Have you ever heard of Peter Gabriel from Genesis? I have been listening to his station. I feel a kinship in some sense to you, shanyin. Like I say above I just try to keep positive. The simple wonders. Like how it's amazing that there are cars in the world. And birds. What the heck, how can things be so amazing? Raindrops falling like diamonds.
.....and painting is always a great idea!
When you wake up tomorrow, think, "I'm a person whose really positive towards everyone". Try 'n' hold that thought throughout the day.
See what happens?
It's worth a try.
I had a mantra for awhile "I am not against anything or anyone" Of course that wasn't unflexible such to be against my own reactions to people which may happen time to time.
Or you can rest mind as open awareness and bring the anger or aversion forward. Then anger will unravel and do its thing until its gone.
Also gives practical instructions on lung so that we can actively purify and work with the negative emotions and thoughts.
Also has a nice Dvd which goes into further detail.
I just started doing the breathing practices and I feel the benefits already.
Thank you Jeffrey ...I found another Singer I like! We have similar taste in music...kinda Indie and uplifting, sort of light and airy.
It reminds me of smiling meditation.
For one day, make loving kindness and smiling your main objective and see how you feel at the end of a day of interaction with the public.
The next day, try looking angry and unsympathetic then see how you feel at the end of the day.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ”
- H.H. The Dalai Lama.
Somewhere in the Bible (not that I read it), it says something like "Pray for it and you will receive", and that doesn't mean stuff like money or cars, but if you pray for a good quality, such as compassion, and you believe it will work, it will; you will be more compassionate - straight away.
I also think I've read somewhere about a Tantric practise which is where you pretend you're an enlightened being (or something like that) and even though you're not, you act accordingly - though I can't remember where I've read that.
And in A.A. we use the term, "Fake it till you make it".
So this isn't some weird stuff I've just made up!
--Ghandi
I struggle to control negative thoughts .... and I used to have an almost constant flow of various thoughts, that my mind seemed to throw at me ... like mind Tourettes if you will!! Anyway I have discovered a few fantastic ways to control such thoughts that really work. These include the obvious meditation ... for ten min's in the morning imagine water washing away each negative thought, as they arise. Remember the mind is essentially a muscle and with work, it can be trained and controlled.
As you walk, focus on an 'OM' mantra - om represents the oneness of our Buddha Nature, and thus thoughts are just winds on the surface of an ocean.
Take a vow to abstain from negative thought processes .... this is a good way to feel like a fresh start and encourage mindfulness, when a negative thought arises.
Research the oneness of all humanity .... this is a good way to reach the realisation, that negative thoughts, as I mentioned before, are just like winds on the suface of the ocean ... they can blow you about. But if your mind is still they cease.
When you feel negative thoughts arising ... inhale for 7 whole seconds .... then exhale for 11 whole seconds, this almost tricks the body into a state of relaxation and calm ... and enables the mind to unwind.
Hope this helps a little x x x
Are the thoughts true? Why do you think the people acted in the way they did (to which you reacted negatively)?
In what ways is this negativity bad? Who does it harm? In what way?
What does it make you feel like?
What do you think they feel when they do things you dislike?
Are there expectations on your part involved?
Maybe try to take 5 minutes for the person you mention and purposely and completely feel negative about them as much as you can. Make up bad things about them if you have to. Then imagine being that person for the next 5 minutes. Were you wrong in something about them when starting the exercise?
Dunno, it feels to me as if its something important to you in this. Something you want to resolve in one way but think it wouldn't work? Maybe you get carried away into thinking?
In those situations, it may be that there is simply not enough to work with to resolve it; so you have to decide that whatever comes up about that person, you will deal with it the moment it arises (not deal with what already happened, or what would happen - but only what happens in the present moment, should it happen) - and do so with the best of your intentions and knowledge. More than that, noone can do anyway...