Do you think this words of BUddha is too pessimistic?

hermitwin

"'I've got children', 'I've got wealth.' This is the way a fool brings suffering
on himself. He does not even own himself, so how can he have children or wealth?
- Gautama Buddha"

Cloud

This isn't saying not to have money or children, it's just saying don't "have" them. Ownership is an illusion (or a delusion). You don't "have" anything, and when you view things in terms of possessions, then you have things to worry about and to lose. This is just a recipe for suffering. When you "have" things you expect to have control over them, but in this world we lose control all too easy. Our kids don't do what we tell them to, we lose our money, our body gets old and sick (without our permission no less!)... if we were truly the owners of anything we would have control, but we do not. At best we are temporary caretakers of the "things" of this world, and we are ourselves temporary things.

It would only be pessimistic if there were nothing you could do about it... but obviously there is something you can do, and that's to stop viewing things in terms of "me" and "mine". This is what the teaching of Not-Self is about, and we come to establish a more harmonious relationship with the world through the Noble Eightfold Path.