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healing
genkaku
Northampton, Mass. U.S.A. Veteran
I can't pretend it's anything but my own take, but I did write a little something about "healing" on my blog today and it occurred to me that others might have their views and perhaps care to append them.
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Closure & healing???
Most of the time, closure sounds like a description for whatever no longer has the power to dominate our psyche.
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Healing describes ( within the fact that everything changes), our acceptance for where we are within that fluidity.
The human body heals with scars and sometimes the scars cause malfunction and sometimes they are unsightly; for me closure is just the acceptance of the scars and those who inflicted the wounds.
Metta
Yes I think there is closure. This is obvious in my life experiences. I don't have to analyze whether there is closure. I know it. For example my old girlfriend cheated on me. At a point there was closure and I even felt liberated though I was still living with my girlfriend. The torment was done. I was still attached to her, but I had not so much neurosis or pangs of pain. That pain reached a peak and then cooled. It was like a fever breaking. Another example is saying good bye to my career as a graduate student. I am now mentally ill. Not working is still painful. Sometimes I feel that I am not worthy of respect. But I know I will get closure on that provided I live that long!
I can't imagine war horrors, fortunately. But regarding closure, when each of my parents died the week between their deaths and the funeral was the most painful. The funeral ritual did offer a significant closure, I believe.