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yagr's dilemma

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  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    edited September 2014

    @yagr, I don't know what your disability is, but you couldn't work at a casino as a dealer or office staff? Even part time?

    Also, don't expect a Times article to be magic. Firstly, I thought the point was to redress the injustice of the parole officer causing your wife to lose her job. The criminal justice system appears to be broken in that respect, and needs fixing. I don't know how a relocation got mixed into it.

    Secondly, what happens with some of these reports he prints is that people in a position to make a difference (gov't mucky-mucks, or some kind of watchdog organisation or volunteer lawyers group) read them, and sometimes decide to get involved. Strings get pulled, problems get resolved. Not a guarantee, it just depends on if the right readers choose to get involved. (And if he decides to take on your story.)

    And it takes time, it doesn't happen overnight, like a lightning bolt. It's more like a ripple effect. Since your wife's case is complex and involves different jurisdictions, I can't imagine how, exactly, it might get resolved. But even if some overall reform process were implemented as a result, that would be a good thing. (You seem to imply there's a level of corruption or indifference or deliberate sabotage/abuse of power involved.) Or she might get pardoned altogether. Or maybe nothing would happen. Or there might be no sign of anything happening until a year later. It's completely unpredictable.

    I think it's a worthwhile story on its own merits. How trafficking affects innocent lives and sets off a domino effect that can result in multiple victimizations--including whoever suffered from whatever felony your wife committed--is an important story to bring to the public's attention. So far, his stories have only been about girls who managed to escape their captors over time, and devoted their lives to rescuing others. There hasn't been anything about girls who get trapped and end up as felons. Not to mention the bit about when they pay their debt to society and get parole, getting screwed over by unscrupulous parole officers, potentially dooming them to never getting back on their feet. And people wonder why there's high prison recidivism. :skeptic: . It's a powerful and moving story.

    So, the ball's in your court. Best of luck with everything.

  • @yagr. From a practical perspective concentrating on the SSDI I think will be the most beneficial goal to acheive. A stream of income opens many doors. Hopefully eventually you may achieve the justice you seek.

  • HamsakaHamsaka goosewhisperer Polishing the 'just so' Veteran

    @Yagr when I lived in San Diego I hung out at Starbucks with a disabled gal who made her living playing poker at one of the local casinos. She was unable to walk more than a few steps and used a wheelchair or walker when her symptoms were improved. She'd been playing poker for YEARS as a supplement to her SSDI.

    yagr
  • yagryagr Veteran
    edited October 2014

    @Hamsaka said:
    Yagr when I lived in San Diego I hung out at Starbucks with a disabled gal who made her living playing poker at one of the local casinos. She was unable to walk more than a few steps and used a wheelchair or walker when her symptoms were improved. She'd been playing poker for YEARS as a supplement to her SSDI.

    Red-head? If so, you've met one of the nicest people in the San Diego area and a good friend. Frankly, that is the dream. Southern California has the perfect climate for me and, contrary to popular belief, SoCal - rather than Vegas, is the poker capital of the world.

    A little apartment in Oceanside, CA, with access to Ocean's Eleven Casino would be perfect. I may only be able to put in a couple of hours at a time but it would be enough. While I'm sure the money has its place, really it would be helpful to feel capable of something - useful in some capacity. Whether I was able to supplement disability through playing poker to the tune of $10/m, $100/m, $1000/m or more - it becomes a tangible, quantifiable measure of my usefulness to my family and myself.

    I've often wondered how much of my day and mental activity is spent shoring up my self-image and repairing hits to my self esteem as I face what seems like a never ending litany of what I can't do on a daily basis. Such a move would fix a lot of that.

    Incidentally, the wife and I drove through your neck of the woods on our way to the hospital this week (and will be again on Thursday heading for the funeral) and I started waving as we did.

    Michelle: Who are you waving to?
    Me: Canada Goose girl.
    Michelle:

    which stemmed from a informative comment you made about the Canada Goose that I shared with her. :)

  • @Dakini said:
    yagr, I don't know what your disability is, but you couldn't work at a casino as a dealer or office staff? Even part time?

    I don't think so. I was actually doing just that (dealing) back in May 2013. After the fifth trip to the ER that month, which included twice being admitted, my doctor told me that my choice was that I could keep working or quit and live to see Christmas. Since then my condition has deteriorated.

    Also, don't expect a Times article to be magic. Firstly, I thought the point was to redress the injustice of the parole officer causing your wife to lose her job. The criminal justice system appears to be broken in that respect, and needs fixing. I don't know how a relocation got mixed into it.

    I think that denying a relocation that effectively sentences a non-offender to the choice of leaving his wife or an early grave would be another instance of a broken criminal justice system.

    So, the ball's in your court. Best of luck with everything.

    Thank you. :)

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