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I wanted to buy one of these, but my wife wouldn't let me. She's funny that way...
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HamsakagoosewhispererPolishing the 'just so'Veteran
@Shoshin said:
That's so true...I guess there will always be communication problems in cyber space, plus one can never tell what kind of mood a reader of the comment might bring with them to the thread....
I put my life on the line every time I start a thread
Just like in face-to-face life, over TIME we get to know our online friends, even if all we have is an avatar, words-on-a-page, and their thoughts, opinions and other hints. Over time a person takes shape.
It's funny though how first impressions are. On another forum, a person's gender is listed beneath their avatar as well as their age (these things are optional but many have it all out there). In spite of this, my first impression of a very 'vocal' poster was that she was a young female, like a twenty-something young woman. I even responded EEEK in a PM with language I'd use for a young, fiercely convicted woman. Turns out, this post is a 65 year old STRAIGHT man! There's just something about his writing style . . .
I've noticed on that board there are hardly ANY females, but I suspect there are many who just opt not to disclose their gender because it is a debate forum. I've already noticed that men feel more comfy debating other men and are reluctant to really let me have it, even if I deserve it . Or I'm just ignored in a neutral way. I don't take it to mean anything personal. I think some men feel uncomfortable doing slash-and-burn debate with females, some others are sexist, and the younger posters have no problem at all with either
Back to the topic
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DavidA human residing in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Ancestral territory of the Erie, Haudenosaunee, Huron-Wendat, Mississauga and Neutral First NationsVeteran
It's easy to allow someone to spit at or hurt you but what would Buddha do if he stumbled upon a madman beating his aunt and they were the only ones around?
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federicaSeeker of the clear blue sky...Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubtModerator
spark him out.
Mindfully.
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DavidA human residing in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Ancestral territory of the Erie, Haudenosaunee, Huron-Wendat, Mississauga and Neutral First NationsVeteran
@Shoshin said:
There's often talk amongst Buddhists along the lines of "Just because I'm a Buddhist this doesn't mean I'm a doormat!"
In other words retaliation of some sort is called for when under attack....
This got me 'thinking' ...If the historical Buddha was around today would he be seen as a doormat ? For example would he retaliate when abused verbally or physically ?
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I wanted to buy one of these, but my wife wouldn't let me. She's funny that way...
Just like in face-to-face life, over TIME we get to know our online friends, even if all we have is an avatar, words-on-a-page, and their thoughts, opinions and other hints. Over time a person takes shape.
It's funny though how first impressions are. On another forum, a person's gender is listed beneath their avatar as well as their age (these things are optional but many have it all out there). In spite of this, my first impression of a very 'vocal' poster was that she was a young female, like a twenty-something young woman. I even responded EEEK in a PM with language I'd use for a young, fiercely convicted woman. Turns out, this post is a 65 year old STRAIGHT man! There's just something about his writing style . . .
I've noticed on that board there are hardly ANY females, but I suspect there are many who just opt not to disclose their gender because it is a debate forum. I've already noticed that men feel more comfy debating other men and are reluctant to really let me have it, even if I deserve it
. Or I'm just ignored in a neutral way. I don't take it to mean anything personal. I think some men feel uncomfortable doing slash-and-burn debate with females, some others are sexist, and the younger posters have no problem at all with either 
Back to the topic
spark him out.
Mindfully.
-Wu...