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I thought this was a very good essay on guilt and shame
vinlyn
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Thx for the share - I skimmed - and this bit stood out as helpful and meaningful to me:
"And here’s where shame is different from guilt. Guilt is focused on us, not on our actions. Guilt can be triggered by our actions, but we go from thinking that we’ve done something “bad” to thinking that we ourselves are “bad.” The “bad” thing we did is seen as proof that we have a “bad” self — perhaps even an essentially bad self. Guilt is a form of self-hatred. So while shame and guilt may seem similar, they’re actually opposites."
Most of us could use this healthy reminder of the difference.