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Killed a fly today - though for a reason- feeling bad
Sorry all! I've only been at this a year or two, so are we supposed to not feel attatched to our family, but still love them? And if so, how is this acheived? Thanks!
Love & Peace
Joe:)
We begin with love for our family and extend that gradually to other beings, in a wider and wider circle. In the end, we may end up loving our family no more or less than other beings.
We hopefully also learn not to cling to friends and family as 'mine', and to be upset by them, as if their role in life is to please us. For example, if you girlfriend leaves you for another person, if it makes her happy you should be happy for her and not miserable for yourself.
And I don't know anyone who is able to do that, although maybe someone here can claim that level fo detachment from self-cherishing. Not me.
Sorry all! I've only been at this a year or two, so are we supposed to not feel attatched to our family, but still love them? And if so, how is this acheived? Thanks!
Love & Peace
Joe:)
There is absolutely no need to apologize for this.
One time I heard a Geshe say that if we could only experience the results of our karma immediately we would be much better at avoiding negative karma. Like if you step on a bug and immediately felt your rib cage being crushed. That would end the philosophical debates, wouldn't it?
Sorry all! I've only been at this a year or two, so are we supposed to not feel attatched to our family, but still love them? And if so, how is this acheived? Thanks!
Love & Peace
Joe:)
Actually you're supposed to abandon your family and go live in a cave.
Just kidding! No, you can love your family without being attached to them, though that's a difficult feat to accomplish, of course. You achieve it the way you achieve anything else, by practice. One way is to examine the faults of cyclic existence, contemplating impermanence and the suffering that is a fundamental part of living. Examining that, we can cut the attachment to external objects. True love is without attachment.
Thanks everyone.:D
I don't get upset if something happens for the better. Like a girl I'd been going out with on-and-off (LOL) since I was two left me and I wasn't upset because it had come to the point where we hardly got a chance to speak to each other. It was for the better, simples;)
Of course it's probobly different for adults LOL:o
Love & Peace
Joe
I think a good example of loving kindness and equanimity is to see a parent who lost a child to a drunk driver, be able to forgive them and help them recover their lives. That is a truly amazing demonstration of love.
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We begin with love for our family and extend that gradually to other beings, in a wider and wider circle. In the end, we may end up loving our family no more or less than other beings.
We hopefully also learn not to cling to friends and family as 'mine', and to be upset by them, as if their role in life is to please us. For example, if you girlfriend leaves you for another person, if it makes her happy you should be happy for her and not miserable for yourself.
And I don't know anyone who is able to do that, although maybe someone here can claim that level fo detachment from self-cherishing. Not me.
Palzang
Actually you're supposed to abandon your family and go live in a cave.
Just kidding! No, you can love your family without being attached to them, though that's a difficult feat to accomplish, of course. You achieve it the way you achieve anything else, by practice. One way is to examine the faults of cyclic existence, contemplating impermanence and the suffering that is a fundamental part of living. Examining that, we can cut the attachment to external objects. True love is without attachment.
Palzang
I don't get upset if something happens for the better. Like a girl I'd been going out with on-and-off (LOL) since I was two
Of course it's probobly different for adults LOL:o
Love & Peace
Joe
Palzang