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Practicing patience.
My mother is a very, very talkative person.
I've been maintaining patience at some level, but she constantly comes into my room and has to talk, and it is repetitive at times. I even get the feeling she's talking out loud to herself at times.
Do any of you know any ways to deal with something like this, or dealing with those people who like to put you down to your face and behind your back?
Thanks!
I've been maintaining patience at some level, but she constantly comes into my room and has to talk, and it is repetitive at times. I even get the feeling she's talking out loud to herself at times.
Do any of you know any ways to deal with something like this, or dealing with those people who like to put you down to your face and behind your back?
Thanks!
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So IMHO, unless there's major conflict, recognize that she's your mother and that it's the least you can do, even if she repeats herself. If she has to talk out loud to herself sometimes, what the hell- she may be in emotional distress and need to ventilate. How patient was she with you when you were a child?
My mother had seven children and to this day I have no idea how she kept her sanity.
I didn't know that. Thanks.
Interesting mummy issue thread.
You are right. I help my mother if I can.
Be kind and compassionate towards your mother, she loves you and is trying to communicate. She nurtured you lovingly both inside and outside her own body when you were helpless, crying for food and attention, and soiling yourself .
It will be your turn to do the same for her one day.We should take good care of our parents, however irritating they may seem.
Kind wishes,
Dazzle
Every day activities are an oppertunity to cultivate the perfection of patience sentient beings with all their perceived faults are extremly kind in this way, Without these perceived non virtues we wouldnt be able to train the mind we are always reliant upon others for our training treat them kindly.
It seems you always have good advice
That is no excuse to let her infringe on you every so often. If it becomes a problem, then I suggest you talk about it. You have the right to be yourself and be alone when you need to. There doesn't have to be any hard feelings on that account. If we were all open and honest, a lot of grief would be prevented.
The more you close in on yourself out of fear of hurting another person's feelings, and the more people who do that, the more tension will build up in all people.
It's OK to have limits, it's OK to let other people know about them - and it's OK to have others tell their limits to us.
Communicating our feelings and needs is a really good way of solving problems before they arise.
In fact saying "you know what, I need to..." is another way of saying "I respect you, I want us to get along"
I have, actually, talked to her about this. I think she has a problem. She focuses more on my leaving for college than me still being here....
She has to do everything for me, so perfectly nitpicky, in fear that if she's not doing everything I want, I won't come back. My uncle was like that with my grandad. It's a long story, but he really only came around for money.
My mother said money didn't buy love, but that's what she's trying to do, and enabling me by doing everything. It use to be a lot worse until I realized it wasn't healthy for me to not do anything my own.
But I have. She doesn't seem to change her mindset though.