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Dealing with thoughts of underappreciation?

thewalkindudethewalkindude
edited February 2011 in Buddhism Basics
How should i deal with these feelings? Today at work a newer employee was taught a new skill that is related to a higher position while i was temporarily bumped down to my old slot. We take tallies on how much work we get done daily and i have proven to get almost twice as much product out the door than he. I listen to my headphones all day and steadily work while he plays on his phone.

I am of course a little bitter that an inferior employee was chosen to become more integrated in the company while i was bumped back.

Comments

  • Inji-gyoInji-gyo
    I'd let it go. No sense in worrying over it. What benefits would the higher position have? Is there extra money involved? (is the extra money a necessity) Is there more pride in the higher position?(Humility can be good)
  • kommkomm
    take joy in their good fortune.
  • compassionate_warriorcompassionate_warrior Veteran
    edited March 2011
    Walkindude, I think you should talk to your supervisor to ask why that happened. If the bump back down results in a lower payrate, you are justified to ask why that happened. You are anyway, but especially if the change might eventually show up negatively on your paycheck. But be respectful, don't sound resentful in the meeting w/your super. And stress the positive; you've been there longer so you know the company better, and you work steadily all day and stay focussed and produce work (list project x and y, paperwork z that you processed by deadline Q, etc.) You have a right to know why you were passed over, and even bumped back. Ask if there's anything more you could be doing to make yourself a valued employee.
  • thewalkindudethewalkindude
    Why is this an announcement?
  • zen_worldzen_world Veteran
    I won't even bother dealing with it. It is not important.
    I am lowest of the low and keeping this thought liberates me from all pride...
  • GeorgewGeorgew
    Zen World, is such a thought really healthy? Liberation from pride doesn't seem like an attractive alternative to having self worth. You can pick the middle route, not thinking greatly of yourself but also realizing you are important on some level and you are worth something.
  • FoibleFullFoibleFull Canada Veteran
    Open up to your emotions. Observe them as they flow by you, but do not grab onto them and hold them tightly to you.

    This is all just another example of our attachment. If you are going to engage in any mental activity about this, rather than feeding resentment and setting imprints for that, feed yourself gratitude that this occurrence has shown you how attached you are to receiving recognition from others. And view both the people and the situation as if they are your "kind teachers" for helping you in your awareness.

    From the Eight Wordly Concerns:
    - Pleased when receiving praise and respect
    - Displeased when not receiving praise and respect
  • zen_worldzen_world Veteran
    edited May 2011
    Zen World, is such a thought really healthy? Liberation from pride doesn't seem like an attractive alternative to having self worth. You can pick the middle route, not thinking greatly of yourself but also realizing you are important on some level and you are worth something.
    Does it really matter? Why should I think that "I am" important and worth something? Who thinks that "I am important/or not important" is my ego....the ego is delusion...so what difference its gonna make?

  • BuddhaSculptureStoreBuddhaSculptureStore
    edited June 2011
    Practicality and Spirituality can go hand-n-hand. I like what compassionate_warrior and FoibleFull are saying. Combine the two to have it's saying along with a good inner compass of your own which points towards self-compassion and is not pull astray by negative thoughts or feelings. Sorry if I am not being original here, just don't need to reinvent the "wheel" as they say. LOL--right?
  • DandelionDandelion London Veteran
    Maybe you're so good at what you do, they need to keep you where you are! If you're very good at getting the products out the door, then they are going to be reluctant to let you move onto a higher and different position because perhaps they don't have anyone else to fill the hole that you would leave... maybe by looking at it like this you can put it into a different context and see that it's nothing to do with you not being valued, infact you are highly valued, thus perhaps helping to stop you feel negative about the situation. Turn the situation on it's head and you see there is nothing to worry or feel angry about as actually you have worked hard and done well and that is worth more than the promotion, which is materialistic, and not really a 'reward' anyway. Good for you for doing hard work, don't let this stop you from continuing to work hard.
  • chaitunadimpallichaitunadimpalli
    Look my dear when you are in a depression just keep on smiling then you can get relief from that. Once you get relief then automatically you mind starts working and give you different ideas choose one of the good +ve idea and get proceed with that. Don't think about that higher position and don't say that is the higher position. Believe that some other good positioning is waiting for you becoz of that reason only you are bumped back. If you are not bumped back you cannot get the other good position waiting for you. Just leave it off about that and make firm effort for another positioning.
    "BE HAPPY"
  • chaitunadimpallichaitunadimpalli
    :clap:
  • Kwantum_KevKwantum_Kev
    I really like what chaitunadimpalli said. I went through a very similar situation myself recently, and suffice it to say that the Universe knew better than I what was the best path for me.

    Unfortunately, the world - especially the corporate world - doesn't seem to operate on principles that are entirely fair or logical to most people. That is something I have had to learn to accept, and still struggle to sometimes.

    What is most important to me is to try to transform my feelings of anger and resentment into acceptance and tolerance through the practice of meditation and prayer. Ultimately, those things that I fret about at work are simply those things that distract me from what is most important. And if I can, though it be hard, find it in myself to extend love to both all the other people involved, as well as to the system which seems so unfair, then I have gained a pearl of wisdom that I may not have otherwise if I had not had that experience.

    Just as the perfect sword is made so by being subjected to the fire over and over again, so it is sometimes with our spiritual advancement.

    Best of luck, and namaste'.


    Kwan Kev
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