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how can NEEDing more money be acceptable
I am so skint, I have lots of debt and struggle to have wants needed. I often find myself dreaming of having more money, or winning the lottery. But these are desires and not right are they!?
My family, the boys and me live below the poverty line and we struggle for the most basic of things, I feel they deserve better. I aspire to do better for them. Am I just causing myself more suffering? How can I turn it around?
My family, the boys and me live below the poverty line and we struggle for the most basic of things, I feel they deserve better. I aspire to do better for them. Am I just causing myself more suffering? How can I turn it around?
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when another is hungry, i feed them. when another is thirsty, i give them water.
if i am suffering, i comfort myself. if another is suffering, i comfort them.
if i need money, i work. if i need to support others, i work.
the mind will create an infinite amount of different stories, which is just added to what is most obvious.
you throw your hand in a fire. to leave it there would be insanity.
then what do you do?
I need to live with it, get on with it without wanting more, expecting miracles and dreaming oF how it could be if I won a million on lottery!!
with metta
If we didnt desire to know better, how would we know any better.
If we didnt desire food, we would starv to death.
Life itself is desire.
They say Babies are born enlightened and then we lose it etc etc..
But actually, babies desire their mothers milk. and cry for food and cuddles.
Its natual. Desires are natual. Desires are life.
Only by having these desires will make you one day make more money.
If you didnt have any desire to win the lottery you would never put it on therefore you would never win.
But by desiring for money we put the lottery on and one day 'if we're very lucky' we could win the jackpot.
So you see, Desire is the key to jackpot.
Dont try and remove desires just dont let them bring you down. Because thats when we lose sight of the ''NOW''
We need to stay focused on whats happened right now. By focusing on whats happeneing right now, we then find out what we can change and what we have to accept.
Desiring things we cannot change is where suffering comes in.
But in this life, there are ALOT of things we can change. We have the power if only we believe. Might take day, week, months, years. But some things are worth fighting for,and are especially worth waiting for..
upekkha
the Buddha taught about two kinds of desire:
(1) craving (tanha), the 2nd Noble Truth, the cause of suffering
(2) right aspiration (samma sankappa), the 2nd factor of the Eightfold Path
the wish to provide optimally for one's family is right aspiration
however, only you know in your heart if it is causing you more suffering
how to turn it around? the Buddha advised to take care with debt; live within one's means; have the view children who do not have the best can develop their own aspirations; they are not as dependent upon you as you may maternally believe
the Buddha taught there are three kinds of children: (1) children who are less successful than their parents; (2) children who have similar success to their parents; (3) children who are more successful than their parents
today i was reading about one of Australia's most wealthy men. he grew up rural poor & his mother committed suicide when he was around 17 years old. although his peers of his generation were returning to the land as hippies, he wished to have money. why? because he never ever had any
as long as your children receive genuine love & honesty from you (and not violence & abuse), they will have the capacity to aspire for themselves in a wholesome way
many wealthy people, attached to their greed, believe they must financially set up their children and then their grandchilden, as an excuse for their greed
of their children have problems because they have nothing to work for; because without working for what they have, everything becomes unsatisfactory to them
to end, if we do not have optimal financial means, our children remain autonomous individuals and can themselves aspire from your situation
kind regards
DD
The Buddha compares debt to the hindrances. Setting the intention to be financially free is encouraged.
If you provide them with food , clothing, and shelter then be proud of yourself . It is important to balance contentment with what you have while at the same time striving for improvement.
I often think which material things in my life I would be able to drop without hestitating if needed and I can come up with quite a few things that might sound impossible for others that don't realise they're attached to material items.
Its just so expensive here at the moment, and it appears to be getting worse! i'd love to go clothing shopping or decorate my home it hasnt been done for years and l still dont have a carpet in my bedroom. This things could all have been done when i had the money but at the time 'other' things were more important, its like learning the value of money (at my age) and regretting previous habits....but its good to regret is it!!! oh my i need to just stop thinking and just live with what i have and know one day i will be sorted i guess!!
With internet on phone subscription I just meant that possibility to go online with your cellphone, which is quite expensive and a luxury in my country. I can understand why internet and a cell phone can't be cut, but they could be cut down to basic internet and normal cell phones however. I do think in some cases it isn't advisable to live in a bad situation and wait for a change though, a change will come obviously but it may be for the worse. If you want it to change for the better then you do have to work for it. This isn't desire, that's preference.
Thank you!
by the sound of it, you need to re-appraise whether you can travel to the new job location offered to you
when economic times become tough, workers rights diminish
you did not receive an optimal & moral outcome but it was somewhat reasonable
please examine the realities carefully
if there is any pride or moral righteousness in your mind, then let it go and think realistically
with metta
DD
I have, and I really can't.
It seems I can't get those kind of jobs anyway, could be that employers see my cv and sense that I will leave at the first possible opportunity.
What's on your CV? Anything you can build on with more training, voluntary work, etc?