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issues with Temptation - boys and girls, let's talk about it.
I have noticed several times that people here in this site ( my second home after my real home ) and other Buddhism related sites are discussing and talking about issues with temptation, so I decided to create a new discussion dedicated to this topic in order to solve it for each other, via each other 
In my opinion , sexual systems are designed to help human keep themselves on earth. but in other hand, we have a appetite to have a soul mate, talk to her, share our times with her, have her shoulder to cry on and a safe place to be with her alone... and at the further steps, we feel like some thing new is going to be born in our heart... "I wana live with her....".
Well, this is a true story about most of the people, but things can not go that way, as easy as reading the above text.
Most of us, probably live in a country or facing with some odd situations that does not allow us to find a soul mate. as a example , I, Myself, can not get along with every one, seems like i'd better to be alone
When you can not find the one who you like, or you can not get close to her, since you get frustrated and probably depressed, you need to find a place to get rid of it ( excuse me, but I think we'd better to be blunt ) and masturbation is the first thing that comes to your mind.
Once the frustration happens to you again, you got to the masturbation...again and again and again and finally you say "Hey!! I have issues..with...temptation..." and since you know that Lord Buddha has banned you from sexual misconduct..then, you get crazy....
what's wrong? I know, most of you have lots of bad memories... and still in a dark situation...
So what do you think?
What is the answer that we are looking for?
Or, am I wrong?!!
I'd love to give my answer to these questions, but let me give them up after your comments.
In my opinion , sexual systems are designed to help human keep themselves on earth. but in other hand, we have a appetite to have a soul mate, talk to her, share our times with her, have her shoulder to cry on and a safe place to be with her alone... and at the further steps, we feel like some thing new is going to be born in our heart... "I wana live with her....".
Well, this is a true story about most of the people, but things can not go that way, as easy as reading the above text.
Most of us, probably live in a country or facing with some odd situations that does not allow us to find a soul mate. as a example , I, Myself, can not get along with every one, seems like i'd better to be alone
When you can not find the one who you like, or you can not get close to her, since you get frustrated and probably depressed, you need to find a place to get rid of it ( excuse me, but I think we'd better to be blunt ) and masturbation is the first thing that comes to your mind.
Once the frustration happens to you again, you got to the masturbation...again and again and again and finally you say "Hey!! I have issues..with...temptation..." and since you know that Lord Buddha has banned you from sexual misconduct..then, you get crazy....
what's wrong? I know, most of you have lots of bad memories... and still in a dark situation...
So what do you think?
What is the answer that we are looking for?
Or, am I wrong?!!
I'd love to give my answer to these questions, but let me give them up after your comments.
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an ideal buddhist couple will still care for each other but
does not need sex intercourse.
but that takes years of spiritual growth.
to me sex n love is 2 separate thing.
a man can have a 1 night stand, or go to a prostitute to satisfy his sexual needs.
but when a man really loves a woman, sex is just a part of the equation.
and i 'd say not the most imp part.
sex is a powerful primal need.
yet there are many people in this world who dont have sex but have fulfilling relationships and happy lives.
Firstly, I don't think this is a place to "solve" each others' troubles with temptation. Although it's a noble endeavour, it's a bit condescending and self-righteous to basically say "Hey y'all, I'm here to solve your problems!"
Secondly, I don't think it's appropriate to assume how people feel/react when they "can not get close to her" (also, why assuming it's a "her?").
Thirdly, I'm not very clear on what you're asking/telling.
very cool
other guys?
thanks..
any other one?
"I'm not very clear on what you're asking/telling." lol.. so you'd better to be quiet !!!
any how...thanks..
any other one?
Not that sexual addiction isn't a source of suffering and working to reduce it will help relieve some of that pain, but its not a banned act.
Well, you said one of the things that I wanted to say in future... lol tnx