An online friend from a running group on FB passed away the other day. He fought cancer for many years and was an amazing inspiration to so many people in his attitude while doing so. His sister found his journal in his bag while he was in hospice and shared this entry, which I found very fitting to share with this lovely group of Buddhist folks
"There are a few choices that come with a cancer diagnosis. We can choose to accept defeat then and there. I've known several people who took that road and I understand how they felt. It's an enormous weight to drop on someone's shoulders. We can choose to fight. That's the road I took. I made a decision to fight as hard as I could, for as long as I could, with every weapon available. And to enjoy every moment of the process. Human beings love all the good in life but run for cover when the bad inevitably comes. There is so much to be gained from the struggle though. I certainly didn't want to leave that potential lying on the table. I told myself that I would accept what came my way. And to revel in it. Adversity brings viewpoints we will never find otherwise. Wisdom is learned most readily from mistakes and hardship. Battle hardened. Tough. Strength. Fearless. These come from the fire and I wanted them. If I were to enjoy only the milk and honey of life, I would only enjoy a portion of life. Why not break every bone and consume all the marrow? To laugh is to live and that was my main objective. When my time comes, I want to laugh and smile and make anyone watching laugh and smile. Go out with some dignity. There was no doubt misery would come. To enjoy that misery and to ask for more. That, my friend, will make one a king."
Dr. Darrell Henry