I have a friend called Mireille who lives locally, we sometimes go out for coffee. But she is plagued by existential torments, she will sometimes ring me up crying and talk to me about how she feels she isn’t worth anything, how the world for her is empty, how nobody feels for her. So I just say a few sweet things to her, how the world would be poorer without her and how she has friends, that it’s often the little things that provide meaning in our lives.
But I wish I could do more for her. I’ve tried to point her at communities she could be a part of, but she feels she has tried that in the past and doesn’t want to get involved in being pushed around. I’ve tried to point her at spirituality, but she says she has already gone down that route. Whatever I suggest for changing her life she rejects... somehow it doesn’t seem to get through.
The only thing she seems to accept is her need for therapy, and then when the therapy appointment is changed or cancelled she ends up in a crisis where she needs to be supported and just held. The therapy does seem to help her, the crying phone calls have lessened over time.
Still I find it sad to see a friend so overcome by repeated crises of self-confidence. Perhaps we could send her some metta?